This video is about dealing with your past. There are certain things that you have to deal with. It’s not healthy or helpful in your life to brush things under the carpet. Having said that, there’s no point at all in beating yourself up for the things that the happened in your life, things that you have said or done. Deal with these things and move on.
I hope you get something that can really help you out of this video.
Today’s topic is taking responsibility for your mistakes and then moving on.
What I mean by that is that you have to look at the mistakes that you’ve made, look at what damage they’ve caused either to you and/or to somebody else.
If you have to be a remorseful about your mistakes, then go through that, be that, do that thing. Think about how you’re not going to have this happen to you again and then move the fuck on.
Leave it behind you.
Get rid of all the shit that you have to get rid of, to move past this thing. Talk to the people you need to talk to in order to make amends or whatever it is that you’ve done. It’s not the end of the world.
At the end of the day a lot of people keep harping on to themselves about mistakes that they’ve made in their lives and they keep bringing it up, over and over again in their own heads and it does nothing for the problem.
It doesn’t make the problem go away, it doesn’t make the situation any worse or any better, all it does is create a really negative vicious circle inside the mind, which is very difficult to deal with once you get going on it.
So, if you have a problem at all, you’re better off dealing with it square on, dealing with it as soon as you can. Talk to people who need to be told, need to be spoken to and move on. Get it in your past as quickly as possible.
I think there are a lot of people who drink or take other drugs to mask the pain that they’ve got in their life, because they’re doing this kind of thing. They’re holding on to a lot of guilt about stuff that they’ve done in the past. You cannot do anything, nothing, about what’s happened in the past.
There is absolutely nothing you can do.
You can try and repair the damage by as I say speaking to people and speaking to the injured parties, if that’s what it is, if it’s a person you’ve done damage to.
If it’s damage done to yourself, speak to yourself and say you know this is it from now on, I apologise to myself but from now on this is the way I’m going to live. I’m not going to repeat those mistakes.
It’s in knowing that you’ve done a mistake, you’ve done something and then repeating it again, that’s where the real problems lie.
I think if you keep repeating the same mistake over and over and over, you’re going to start questioning your methods. I mean what the fuck is happening.
Punishing yourself and hurting yourself is not doing any good to anybody, especially not to yourself.
Other people may get a sick pleasure at seeing you remorseful and guilt ridden because of what you’ve done but it doesn’t do you any good and it doesn’t do any good to them. It doesn’t change the fact, it doesn’t change the fact to you. In fact, it does more damage, because it doesn’t change you as a person and if it does … it changes you in a negative way.
If you take ownership of it, take responsibility for it, go right this is the lesson that I’ve learnt from this and I won’t repeat the mistake again, you become a stronger person and the person that you have hurt – or yourself if you’ve hurt yourself – is going to benefit from it in the long run.
Nobody benefits from you being guilt ridden and remorseful by you punishing yourself and kicking yourself in the arse, every day, over something that’s happened, that is gone and in the past.
So just leave it there, move on. onwards and upwards eh!
Take care of yourself, have a great day, keep the alcohol out of your mouth, stay safe and stop kicking yourself in the pants, move on.
“Mistakes are always forgiveable, if you have the courage to admit them”
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!