Where’s your commitment to quit?
Do you have a commitment to quit?
Are you committed to going at this balls out until you’ve got the job completed?
Today I want to talk about having the commitment to quit.
I mean serious commitment to quit.
I think it’s going to push you through all your barriers, it’s going to push you through anytime that you’re feeling it’s tough going on, anytime you’re coming across hurdles…commitment to quit looking back on that.
There are two forms of commitment to quit.
The first one is when you’re starting out and you’re going through your whole preparation process, and you decide that this is the day that you are going to begin a new journey.
The first commitment is actually stepping across that starting line.
You’ve told the people that you need to tell, you’ve got your day ready…and now it’s time to actually do it, make that commitment.
The second type of commitment is the long term one, where no matter what happens in the future, no matter who offers you a drink, no matter what situations you get in, no matter what your life throws at you, you’re going to carry on.
My wife died a few years ago, but that was a different story.
I just turned to the bottle big time and I tried any drugs that I could get my hands on.
My father died lately, a couple of months ago, and that hit me hard.
My dad was my biggest hero in life, and I miss him lots.
But, three and a half years on and I didn’t think about drinking once. It just didn’t enter my head.
It was a non-starter.
This is all part of the learning process.
We have to go through this. It’s something that you will get used to day after day.
The more you go through this, the more committed you’ll become.
The more days you have behind you between you and your old life, the easier it’s going to be and the more reason you have to go forwards.
That big goal is very important, the one that you’re aiming towards, the one that is pulling you away from the alcohol it’s very important. ;When you’re having a bad day, it gives you a reason to carry on. It’s your reason why.
Victor Frankel said that
give a man a big enough reason why, give a person a big enough reason why and he’ll put up with almost any how.
This is so true. When it’s easy, it doesn’t fucking matter, that kind of stuff, it doesn’t matter.
It’s very easy to remain committed to something that you enjoy doing, that you like doing.
That’s one of the biggest problems, when people focus backwards.
When they look at what they’re missing out on, they pine for these things that they think was delivering them from benefit.
The only reason it was delivering benefits at the time, the alcohol, is because you didn’t focus on anything else.
That was your thing.
I’ve been there, I’ve done all these.
When I used to drink, I was so involved in alcohol, so involved in the whole thing. That was almost becoming my life.
And when alcohol becomes your life you’re screwed.
You still could turn back but…
When I talk about having the commitment to quit, it’s not really a commitment to quit…that’s not the right frame of mind to have.
It’s sort of a fixed mindset where you’re still being dragged back to the alcohol.
Your commitment to quit should be all about growth.
You’re committed not to quitting but to achieving a better life, achieving something in your future, achieving a big goal.
Whether that goal is to be more healthy, get a better life, a better job, or a million in the bank, or religious, whatever it is that you what you want to be.
You have to be committed to that.
Above all, be committed to yourself, to your health and wellbeing.
And once you’re committed to a goal like that, anything that is trying to pull you back is the enemy of that.
There will be a lot of people who will try and pull you back,
and not for any vindictive reasons, not because they don’t want to see you doing well but mostly because they find it difficult to change themselves and they see your change as affecting them.
Especially when someone wins a lot of money, say on the lottery or something like that, people see that win not from your perspective, but from their own perspective.
They see it from ‘I wish I could’ve had that, I wish that was me’.
Most people will be very generous about it and say ‘I wish you all the best of luck, good for you, couldn’t’ happen to a better person’, all that kind of stuff, but at the end of the day, most people are going to think about these things, initially at least from a personal perspective.
So I think it’s one of the best ways of finding that commitment, is to commit to yourself, to your mental, physical health, commit to changing your environment.
Then you can start looking after other people.
You can’t do that unless you’re healthy yourself in all those senses.
Focus on the future, focus on the long-term goal, focus on what you’re going to achieve in your life now that you don’t drink alcohol anymore.
I guarantee you, anybody who’s been at this stuff for a year, there’s nobody who’s going to turn around and say ‘my life isn’t better now’,
because, we’re all adults, we’re all capable of achieving things, we’ve all got a lot of experiences in life, we’ve all had jobs, we’ve all had relationships, so we’re not stupid.
The only thing that’s been holding back is this lifestyle.
This alcoholic lifestyle.
I hate the word ‘alcoholic’.
Just, the overall lifestyle.
It’s not about the alcohol, it’s about that lifestyle, that framework that alcohol has played a part in.
You get rid of that and you start using your mind, you start using your time and your money in better ways, then your life is going to improve drastically.
A year later, once you’re achieving those goals, once you’re moving away from the alcohol, you’ve gone a year without alcohol, you won’t want to ever look back again.
That’s what I want for everybody who wants to quit drinking that they get to that one year, two years and they think ‘there’s no chance I’m ever going back there because of what I’ve achieved in my life.
It’s good life. It’s really a good life.
It’s a shitty life when all you’ve got is drinking and getting drunk and recovering, and drinking and getting drunk and recovering,
that repetitive, depressing, horrible shit cycle.
If you have any comments about that, give us a shout in the comment section. Come on over to the website if you want to download an audio of this. You can go to iTunes as well. There’s a transcript on the website as well.
Until next time, have a great day, keep the alcohol out of your mouths and stay healthy.
COMMITMENT IS THE GLUE THAT BINDS YOU TO YOUR GOALS
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!