Before I quit, I lived in a twilight zone where there is stress but drink becomes a very efficient way of temporarily alleviating that stress. Drink until blotto.
Then you don’t really think a lot about the stress.
But it’s not relieving anything, it’s only masking the problems.
The problems which are causing you to stress are still there, left undealt with.
The frame that your thinking is locked into never gets changed because you’re brain never gets the chance to think clearly.
When you’re focused on the next party, getting to the weekend or the evening when you can ‘relax’ – the mental drinking stage, then you have the physical stage where you’re actually doing the drinking, then the hangover.
Alcohol turns your brain to mush!
The influence of alcohol goes much deeper than the actual effect of the drug. Think of all the things you’re missing out on because of the drinking, because your brain is not working right.
That’s how I used to deal with stress… drink… it’s how I used to deal with a lot of problems. That’s why I never dealt with a lot of stuff.
I spoke about FOMO, the fear of missing out, as something which we all succumb to after we stop drinking. It’s bullshit! Missing out on what?
Eating food… stresses me out sometimes.
What do I feel when I’m stressed?
How am I able to deal with my stress better now that I don’t drink?
I suppose this is normal. No ups and downs. No rollercoaster. Better thinking.
I still get days, when for one reason or another, I get stressed or feel a bit low.
There are many different natural reasons for this. Something might happen which knocks me out of my comfort zone. Something someone said to me. Some food didn’t agree with me, although I get that less and less. I maybe didn’t get a good nights sleep. Something happened to someone else, someone I’m close to which causes a little stress.
My main goal for stress relief is…
to keep negative influences to a controllable minimum.
The rest I can deal with.
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” William James
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!