What does living till you die mean? Before, that would have meant drinking, smoking, taking risks. All the bullshit excuses that I’ve heard since I was a kid. You know what I’m talking about… The guy who says that “you only live once, why not enjoy yourself” while inhaling toxic fumes into his lungs and pouring toxic liquids into his body…
If that’s what you want from life, go for it…
It’s not for me… I’m done with going around in circles, looking for solutions at the bottom of a bottle. I’ve seen the other side and there’s no going back for me. Make the commitment. See how good this life is.
Don’t waste another moment kidding yourself.
Today I wanted to talk about, what is the point of living unless you are going to live until you die?
The reason behind this is that when I used to drink my life evolved around alcohol in one way or another. I thought the definition of a good life was to go out and get plastered and to enjoy the buzz with my friends; to enjoy the craic. Listen to the music, be in the places where all the craic was happening and go home feeling high on life.
My life was basically revolving around one poisonous session about another.
Your body can handle one unit of alcohol per hour. The average pint of beer is three units of alcohol. If you drink six pints of beer, you’ve consumed and put into your body, fifteen to eighteen units of alcohol. That means that it takes eighteen hours for your body to not only get rid of the toxin, that’s the first point, but also while your liver is metabolising the alcohol it cannot do anything else. It focuses its entire attention on getting rid of the alcohol.
Now one of the big issues here is that your liver has got other jobs to do. It’s not just there to get rid of the alcohol. Your liver is there to clean your blood and keep you alive but for those eighteen hours, just because you decided to get drunk, your body is no longer able to fulfil this function and it has to concentrate on just this one toxic element that you’ve introduced to your body.
So, what does living until you die mean? As I said before when I used to drink, living until I died meant – “Sure you don’t know what’s around the corner, you could be hit by a Bus at any time.” That was something that I heard over and over and over again as an excuse for somebody smoking or drinking or just taking risks, eating bad food and stuff like that.
And, it is something that can happen to anyone sure enough, but is it really living a good life? Just being stuck with an addiction of having to pour a liquid down your throat in order to get a buzz, relax, sleep, enjoy yourself, problem solve – is it life that you have to do this?
You are so reliant on this outside force in order to get what you need out of life.
For me it’s not. For me drinking alcohol is pointless, it’s going round and round in circles. Life is pointless when your life evolves around intoxication.
I can say this about myself, I can say this about hundreds if not thousands of other people that I’ve personally been in contact with since I’ve stopped drinking. People that have put in the effort and the time needed and are reaping the results of not drinking any more. Just getting outside that loop, that craziness, that broken record mentality and the thinking and action that just revolves around this one thing.
Once you take that one thing out of your life, you are able to spread out more and life becomes more important . For me, before I stopped drinking life was losing its whole significance. The one thing that kept me going was my Son and God knows where I would be today if I didn’t latch onto that one big reason in my life to stop drinking.
So not matter what I did to myself, I kept looking at him and it was a haunting thing that just kept repeating on me over and over again, what was my drinking doing to him?.
Most of the time before, I pushed that thought down as soon as it came up, I didn’t give it any heed. As I say for most of my drinking life, I didn’t even think I was doing anything wrong by drinking alcohol, but then I started thinking along those lines and asking what it was actually doing to me.
My life was getting to a stage where I wondered what the point in living this life anymore, was. What’s the point in doing these things any more?
I’ve have always wanted to do so much and I’ve always been a person who has tried to grow and always thought about growth. I’ve always wanted to learn and keep learning throughout my life. I’ve always tried to do that. But, when you are using a substance like alcohol or any other drug that is in control, that you give over your control to for the effect of the drugs, everything else takes a back seat.
It is impossible to achieve the big things that you want to achieve in your life, when you are drinking. You can achieve getting and going to a job, anyone can do that even when on drugs as long as you don’t do it at work and as long as you don’t fuck up at work. But the problem is that, that is about as much as you can do. You can do robotic stuff, stuff that most people could do in their sleep.
In order to achieve something, you need to make life really worthwhile for you and those around you.
You’ve got to be clear headed, you’ve got to be totally and utterly ruthless with your own time, with your own body and what you are putting into it and the amount of sleep you are getting.
You can take this to the extreme, for an example take someone that wants to get a Gold Medal in the Olympics or let’s take a particular person, Arnold Schwarzenegger and he wants to become Mr Universe. In order to get to that level you’ve got to live that life.
You’ve got to live, breathe, eat, sleep, think, everything to do with being Mr Universe and you’ve got to do it better than anyone else around you. And that’s what he did, that’s ultra up here, it’s way above what I want to do in my life.
But in between where I was – down here and where he was, the heights that he got to, there are a lot of other different levels and I want to get to a lot higher than I was.
I’m not willing to put a lot, to put super human effort into one thing. I don’t want to do that. I like my relaxation, I like my family, I like living my life, I like a diverse life, so dedicating myself to one thing like that is not the thing for me but I love what I am doing now.
I love alcohol mastery, I love just thinking about this stuff. The psychology of it gives me a buzz, just by thinking about it. I’ve always wanted to write and now I’ve written five books, I’ve done video courses, I’ve done things now that I never would have achieved if I hadn’t stopped drinking and I can say that for so many different people that have gone on the road to their own ideal life, because they’ve stopped drinking.
And it’s not because of the alcohol, its because they have changed their whole outlook towards alcohol, towards the behaviour which caused them to drink the alcohol in the first place and that’s what its all about.
So, go back to the start and ask the question again – “What is the point of living a life unless you are going to live a life which is worthwhile living?”. Unless you get the life that you want to live, not that anyone else wants you to live, but the life that you want to live. That’s what it is all about.
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Take Care of yourself, stay safe and keep the alcohol out of your mouth. Good Luck to you!
“The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do it, as long as you really believe 100 percent” – Arnold Schwarzenegger
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
Happy St Patrick’s Day Kevin. Excellent message.