Today’s video is entitled: Don’t talk – act. Don’t say – show. Don’t promise – prove.
I am a great believer in preparation and if you prepare before doing something new, by thinking things through in advance and getting yourself in the right frame of mind and position, you can foresee and iron out many of the wrinkles, curve balls or obstacles, that you may encounter, along the way.
However, there is a point when you have to stop preparing, to stop talking and to start acting. This doesn’t mean you need to stop thinking and talking, just that you need to start taking action and moving forward towards your goal.
Don’t say – show: Is a bit like the first part of the title – Don’t talk, act – except, that I think it’s more as though you are trying to convince either yourself or somebody else, that you can do something,
It is something that can lead to low self esteem, which may also be increased by past experiences of when you were unsuccessful in your attempts to quit drinking alcohol or eliminating another habit in your life.
Another reason that may contribute to your low self esteem, is that saying what you are going to do, over and over again, is a type of procrastination, which instead of giving you confidence, enforces a thought pattern/behaviour which tells you, you can put things off, until tomorrow, or the next day or the next day and makes it more likely that you will not take action to get these things done.
The only way you can push yourself forward in this, is to take action.
Sometimes, you may might be in a positon where you don’t have confidence in yourself – you don’t know what to do next, or what you are going to do, when you stop drinking. You may have concerns as to how are you going to relax or socialise without alcohol; or go to a bar; or do this or that. And a lot of the time you need to stop thinking and just do it. You just have to go out and show yourself that you can do this and build confidence and new experience through that.
You may go from being someone who drinks alcohol to being someone that no longer drinks alcohol over night, but your new life, doesn’t stop and start in the same way. You instead start your new journey into your new life, by building up the parts of your life that don’t rely on alcohol any more to sleep, socialise, problem solve or any of the things which relied on alcohol in your old life. You can only build that up gradually, day by day, by day.
The third part of this is: Don’t promise – prove. Over the years, I’ve made a lot of promises that I just haven’t been able to keep up, because of my drinking. Not because I made a bad promise and I forgot about it, but because the drink would take over and I wouldn’t be in the humour to make good on the promise the next day. I’d promise things that were outside of my capacity to give.
This is something that I do not do anymore. I do not make promises that I can’t fulfil and when I make a promise, I always push through with them, because, I haven’t got this thing holding me back any more.
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“Don’t talk, act. Don’t say, show. Don’t promise, prove”
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