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Don’t talk, act. Don’t say, show. Don’t promise, prove

by | Stop Drinking Alcohol | 2 comments

Today’s video is entitled: Don’t talk – act. Don’t say – show. Don’t promise – prove.

I am a great believer in preparation and if you prepare before doing something new, by thinking things through in advance and getting yourself in the right frame of mind and position, you can foresee and iron out many of the wrinkles, curve balls or obstacles, that you may encounter, along the way.

However, there is a point when you have to stop preparing, to stop talking and to start acting. This doesn’t mean you need to stop thinking and talking, just that you need to start taking action and moving forward towards your goal.

Don’t say – show: Is a bit like the first part of the title – Don’t talk, act – except, that I think it’s more as though you are trying to convince either yourself or somebody else, that you can do something,

It is something that can lead to low self esteem, which may also be increased by past experiences of when you were unsuccessful in your attempts to quit drinking alcohol or eliminating another habit in your life.

Another reason that may contribute to your low self esteem, is that saying what you are going to do, over and over again, is a type of procrastination, which instead of giving you confidence, enforces a thought pattern/behaviour which tells you, you can put things off, until tomorrow, or the next day or the next day and makes it more likely that you will not take action to get these things done.

The only way you can push yourself forward in this, is to take action.
Sometimes, you may might be in a positon where you don’t have confidence in yourself – you don’t know what to do next, or what you are going to do, when you stop drinking. You may have concerns as to how are you going to relax or socialise without alcohol; or go to a bar; or do this or that. And a lot of the time you need to stop thinking and just do it. You just have to go out and show yourself that you can do this and build confidence and new experience through that.

You may go from being someone who drinks alcohol to being someone that no longer drinks alcohol over night, but your new life, doesn’t stop and start in the same way. You instead start your new journey into your new life, by building up the parts of your life that don’t rely on alcohol any more to sleep, socialise, problem solve or any of the things which relied on alcohol in your old life. You can only build that up gradually, day by day, by day.

The third part of this is: Don’t promise – prove. Over the years, I’ve made a lot of promises that I just haven’t been able to keep up, because of my drinking. Not because I made a bad promise and I forgot about it, but because the drink would take over and I wouldn’t be in the humour to make good on the promise the next day. I’d promise things that were outside of my capacity to give.

This is something that I do not do anymore. I do not make promises that I can’t fulfil and when I make a promise, I always push through with them, because, I haven’t got this thing holding me back any more.

I hope that Video gives someone, something. I heard this earlier today and thought it could be something that would benefit others, by looking at these three different areas of life. If so and you like it. give us a thumbs up for the message to reach someone else who may also benefit from it. If you want to come over to the website and sign up for the newsletter, then by all means do, you’ll find it over in the sidebar on this (the right) side of the page.

“Don’t talk, act. Don’t say, show. Don’t promise, prove”

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  1. Cheri Howard

    This reminds me of a piece (author not credited) that I found on online.

    Positively Negative

    We drank for happiness and became unhappy
    We drank for joy and became miserable
    We drank for sociability and became argumentative
    We drank for sophistication and became obnoxious
    We drank for friendship and made enemies
    We drank for sleep and awoke fatigued
    We drank for strength and felt weak
    We drank medicinally and it made us sick
    We drank for relaxation and it enhanced anxiety
    We drank for bravery and became afraid
    We drank for confidence and became more doubtful
    We drank for conversation and slurred our speech
    We drank to feel heavenly and ended up feeling like hell
    We drank to forget and were forever haunted
    We drank for freedom and became slaves
    We drank to erase problems and saw them multiply
    We drank to cope with life and invited death

  2. Karen

    What do you think of moderate wine drinking with dinner? I drink about 2-3 glasses of Spanish red wine at night. Is drinking wine alcoholic drinking because now it’s considered food.


    Karen H.


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