Session 4 has questions on walking, AA, helping your body through cravings and I also yack on about changing your environment
This week, SDA 71 is about relearning for not drinking. It’s about filling the gaps in your life that are left by the absence of alcohol. It’s not as hard is it might seem. It’s about dealing with one thing at a time.
Podcast: Play in new window | Download Click the link above to listen to the podcast. This weeks session is about Pain. Questions for this week are: Should I avoid foods that contain alcohol? Is it a concern if I can hold my drink? If you have anything you’d like to ask, send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org You can also subscribe to the podcast […]
SDA 70 is about short term and long term quitting. The best way to change long term behavior is with short term feedback.
This weeks session is about fear.
This week’s Stop Drinking Alcohol focuses on being ashamed of having to quit alcohol. I also look at the shame of addiction. It’s a no-win situation. You’re damned if you do or damned if you don’t. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. You just have a problem which is a small part of who you are. Dealing with that problem allows the best of you to resurface.
Podcast Session 1
This weeks video is about stopping drinking alcohol when you're partner, or someone else you're close to, doesn't want you to. They feel threatened by your changes, fearing everything must change!
Most of the questions about liver damage are from people who fear that the damage they’ve already done is too much. The liver is one of the only organs that can heal itself. You can do serious damage by years of heavy drinking, but it takes a lot to permanently damage this tough organ.
Is alcohol evil? Really? I understand where people are coming from when they say this. But it’s just not true. Alcohol is no more evil than a rock is evil. It is no more evil than the glass that it sits in. Alcohol is no more evil than the mouth that drinks it. Using this language gives alcohol massive power over you when you’re trying to quit. Don’t do it!
How Do You Make The Final Decision For Consciously Stopping Drinking Alcohol? We are all unique in our thinking. Who we are is a mix of our experiences, our perceptions, our thoughts, etc. Each of us finds meaning in different areas of life. When you’re looking for a that extra push when you’re making the decision to quit, there are some common areas where you can fix your focus. Inside and outside of yourself is one. Another is your past, present, and future. Or you could focus on what gives you pain and pleasure. In general, you’ll find your answer in a mix of all three.
So I still think about drinking. It’s not as bad as it sounds. We all think about drinking at one time or another. It’s impossible not to. We are surrounded by drinking in our culture, advertisements, and people who are knocking it back. In weak moments, it’s easy to fall back to old thinking for a second or two. But I know what it is, just a habit memory resurfacing. It’s not a big deal. You will go through it, it doesn’t make you an alcoholic, it doesn’t mean that you’ve failed, it only means you’ve had a little thought. You have thoughts all day long. Some you act on, some you don’t, some would get you in big trouble if you put them into reality. Don’t worry about them. Acknowledge them, accept that you have them and will have them in the future, and move on!
Is alcohol really a social drug? I’ve always associated alcohol with way too much violence, physical and mental. I love my social life now, not making an idiot out of myself every time I go out… and paying for the privilege. So, quitting alcohol for social reasons makes way more sense to me.
This video is all about accepting the things in your life that are inevitable. It’s also about accepting that your life is a process, a dynamic flow, and you have a massive say in how it plays out.
Relationship Reasons to Quit Drinking Alcohol: You will want to spend quality time with your spouse, children and friends; your sex life will improve; you will be more at peace with others as the silly arguments of the past seem to no longer occur. You will feel closer and more loved by your family.
Why do some people succeed and others don’t? A lot of it is to do with having a goal to achieve outside of your quitting, something that will not only fill the gap but change your life, and being determined to get to that goal. In this video, I talk about this determination and some of the ways you can strengthen yours.
Stop Drinking Alcohol 66 focuses on the past is the past. There’s absolutely nothing you can do about a drink that you’ve already drunk, what you can do is change the way you perceive your past, how you look at those drinks that have already been drunk. You can carry them around with you like a growing chain that you have to lug around for the rest of your life, or you can choose to view your past as a different country, a place that you’ve moved away from. There is no positive reason to look beat yourself up about your past. That type of thinking only hinders your present resolve to change. People can get stuck in a never ending cycle of drinking to forget or to avoid pain, negative thinking about the past only maintains this cycle.
Mental Reasons to Quit Drinking Alcohol: Your brain will heal; you will become more mentally alert; your memory will improve; your resolve will be strengthened; your self-esteem will rise; you will feel free from addictions that have kept you down in the past; you will be fully aware of your surroundings.
On this weeks Stop Drinking Alcohol, I talk about why our hangovers tend to get worse as we get older. There are many reasons for this. Of course the primary reason is because we are still putting alcohol into our bodies. I am still aging, but I don’t get any hangovers because I don’t drink. I do get what I call food hangovers. This is where I spend a day or two eating shit food. Because I don’t have alcohol clouding my judgment, or poisoning my senses, I feel the difference between feeling good after eating healthy food and feeling bad after eating crap. There are many reasons why continued use of alcohol as you get older is going to result in hangovers that hit you a lot harder.
Here’s a list of Questions and Answers Videos… Just click on the link to go to the post! Should I Try To Lose Weight When I Quit Drinking? Why Do Hangovers Get Worse As We Age? What Should You Expect When You Quit Drinking? Are You Afraid Your Boss Will Find Out About Your Quitting Drinking? Why Do We Need More Alcohol? What Are […]
If you’re having problems dropping off to sleep once you don’t use alcohol as a hammer to knock yourself out, try some relaxing teas. Try to drink an hour or so before you hit the sack. Valerian root tea is my favourite. I’ve used it for a long time. It helps you relax, and if you relax you have a better chance of being able to sleep.
Our kidneys are one of the organs that we just can’t do without. You can live without one, but not both. Alcohol screws around with your kidneys in so many ways, making them work twice as hard as they need to so that your system is kept watered and fresh…
Stop Drinking Alcohol 64 is all about not making any more excuses. There’s going to be a new section on the site where you can check out all the excuses that people make when they’re ‘trying’ to quit drinking. We all do it! I’m no exception. There’s always an excuse. For me, it mostly comes down to procrastination. My partner has just started working in a local coffee shop/bakery. It’s good for most of the week until Saturday. The cafe closes Sunday, so anything that’s left either gets thrown out or is available for the staff to take home. Saturday evening is one big excuse for me why I should eat this cake or that… pure torture! Nice torture, but torture nonetheless, haha… Let me know your suggestions for videos! The more the merrier! Let’s give ourselves the kick up the arse we sometimes so richly deserve!
In Stop Drinking Alcohol 63, the topic is alcohol moderation management. I tried to moderate my drinking for too many years, always slipping back into the same routine, time after time. It wasn’t until I finally came to realise that I drank solely to get drunk that things changed. I knew there was no such thing as long term moderation for me. For anyone with a taste for alcohol, for anyone who likes to get drunk, is there or can there ever be moderation? Also, why do we never hear about moderation management for other drugs?
Different people have different views on spirituality. For me yoga, meditation, and walks help me to find the spiritual side of myself. It’s not for everyone, some will find it in places of religion, others in their family life. No matter what, being poisoned does not help in your search. Once you are no longer drinking, you’ll find more time and energy for your own spiritual search.
When you quit alcohol for financial reasons you will just have more money in your pocket to do the more important things in your life. You’ll no longer feel guilty for pissing your money up against the wall of the nearest bar.
Do you know why you want to stop drinking alcohol? Is it because you have been told that your health is suffering? Do you feel that your health is suffering? Are you trying to stop drinking because you can feel your life slipping away? One of the fundamental principles of any change is to believe that the change MUST happen. You have to get to a place in your head where you have no option but to change. Take a look at the video for a couple of tips on how to get there…
Another health risk of drinking alcohol can be contracting infectious diseases, especially sexually transmitted diseases.
Most people have some idea of the physical damage that alcohol is having on their bodies. The more they drink, the more chances you have of pushing yourself into ill health. But the physical damage doesn’t stop at your organs. It gradually seeps into your whole physical life, stopping you from doing so much. Once you quit, once your defense systems and repair systems have the opportunity to really start the healing process, the damage will be halted, and most of it can be reversed.
If you try to do too much at one time, you water down the results and there’s a bigger risk failing at every step. If you are wondering, should I try to lose weight at the same time as I’m quitting drinking, look at what is the most important to you and go for that first. Focus on the one thing, conquer that, then move on to the next.
What are your expectations about your life, once you’ve stopped drinking alcohol? Are they reflecting your state of mind before you quit? Once you’ve not used alcohol for a while, you’re mind will be in a much better, clearer place. You’ll may find yourself seeing things from a different perspective, one that has not been influenced through a pickled brain.
Why Do we fear never being able to have another drink? Even when we know that it is killing us! It can be a terrifying thought, never being able to do something again. It’s really just another way your mind is playing tricks on you. Like everything else, it takes time to overcome these feelings, but they do disappear.
In this edition of SDA, I talk about our new forum over on the website. Let me know if you have any questions about the forum or difficulties in using it. I’m going to make a quick vid during the next week to highlight some of the navigation and posting tools. I also talk about a different way of looking the cravings and side effects of quitting drinking.
Insomnia is one of the most far reaching problems faced both by heavy drinkers and those who are trying to quit. In this video, I look at insomnia and other sleep disorders in terms of alcohol consumption.
In my opinion, recovery is another one of those words that has been hijacked by the alcohol detox industry. It’s another word that, if used in this context, will keep you a prisoner of alcohol long after you’ve stopped drinking.
You needed many more drinks at the end of your drinking life than you did at the beginning. Did you know that this is your bodies attempt to keep you alive? It’s a bit like the fabled story of Rasputin, who poisoned himself with gradually increasing doses of arsenic in order to become immune to the poison.
The forum is up!
This video is in response to a statement I got on Youtube about why I was not afraid of my boss finding out about my drinking… Switch boss for neighbours, teachers, etc… When you quit drinking alcohol, quit using this drug, you are free. Your body is free straight away, no more damage. Your mind might take a little coaxing, but it will shortly be free also. Your body and mind will become stronger and fitter as a result of your decision. Why would anyone not rejoice in that fact? Why would a boss not think to themselves, I have now got an employee who is going to be more focused, with less illness which means less days off work. I am going to have an employee who will not be coming in to work with the effects of alcohol in their body, the fogging effect on their brains. Most bosses drink! As soon as you highlight your decision to stop, you highlight their continued use. To justify their continued drug use, they must make it ‘right’ in their own minds. You have a problem with alcohol, that’s why you quit.
On this weeks Stop Drinking Alcohol, I talk about the uses of the words normal and responsible to describe some alcohol users. Do you ever hear the same terms used when it comes to other drug users? Normal heroin users? Responsible heroin users? It’s just another way that our society is hiding it’s head under the sand. It must be one of the biggest deceptions around, and we do it to ourselves, that somehow either we’re not drug users when we drink, or that our drug of choice is ‘better’…!
One of the most important things you can do before you quit is to think about the reasons why you were drinking. We all know lots of reason why we shouldn’t drink, but in order to really push your life in a different direction, you must understand the reasons you did drink.
!00% of stopping drinking alcohol is about not putting it into your mouth any more. If you never put alcohol into your mouth, you can’t drink it. Once you stop drinking alcohol, you still have all the thinking and behaviour that was associated with the drinking to deal with. That’s where all your ‘cravings’ and ‘symptoms’ and ‘side effects’ are coming from. Your subconscious mind is trying to act out your habits, without the habit focus - the alcohol. Fortunately for you, your body is a habit making machine. Once you no longer feed the old habit, new ones will take over in time, normally between 4 and 6 weeks.
Long Live the Liver! Helping your liver to recover, once you stopped drinking alcohol, means giving it the tools and the fuel that will speed up the process. Here’s 5 foods you can eat that will give your liver the fuel that it needs.
In this week's stop drinking alcohol, I talk about changing my environment, the new area on the website - the forum - expected to be up and running in the next week or so.
Long Live the Liver! Once you’ve quit drinking alcohol, it’s good to give your liver as much help as possible to overcome the beating it has been taking all these years. Here’s 5 things to avoid once you’ve stopped drinking.
Your liver has had it’s work cut out over all these years of drinking. You should be eating the right foods and avoiding the wrong foods. Here are five other things you can do to give your liver a helping hand… Long live the liver!
Your relationships can be your sources of your best strengths. It was really eye opening for me to realize, after I’d quit and I could think straight for the first time in years, how much of an effect my drinking was having on all of my relationships. It’s worth your time to take the time to sit down and think hard about how this drug is interfering with the lives of those around you.
Aren’t we supposed to keep drugs out of sport? Isn’t that the message we would like to send to our kids? That there’s no room in professional sports for drug-takers? Why is it that our children are exposed to alcohol advertisements during sports broadcasts?
In this week’s Stop Drinking Alcohol, I talk about helping your liver to recover from the years of abuse while you’ve been using the alcohol drug. It’s not an easy thing to think about, that you might have caused damage to your vital life essential organs, but by regularly adding a toxic overload to your system, you’ve been contributing to an organ which is more than likely on the way to exhaustion. Once you’ve stopped taking the drug, it’s time to give your liver all the necessary tools it needs to keep you alive and functioning well into your old age. I also talk about some of the things I’m doing to help my liver recover!
I suffered with this condition for years while drinking, especially if I consumed lager or any other carbonated alcoholic drink. Within a couple of weeks of stopping, I no longer felt any symptoms. No matter how rich the food I eat, without the constant stream of alcohol in my system, I haven’t had any indigestion in almost a year.
One of the most difficult things for me to come to terms with was how many of my most fundamental relationships had changed, mostly for the better I must add. But a couple of my closest friendships just faded because they were based around alcohol.
Hypoglycemia is low blood sugar levels that can be caused by drinking too much alcohol. It’s another condition that can be caused and prevented by your alcohol choices.