In this session, I talk about how you can be your own therapist. You are the only one who can truly get what’s going on inside your head. A therapist or a coach can only take you so far. They can only guide you. At the end of the day, it is you who must take the action. In truth, you are your best therapist. Once you have the right tools, you know immediately if something is working or not. You’re right at the heart of it all.
In this video I talk about:
How did I have fun before I stopped drinking?
Where was the real fun in my life?
If you want to see real solid fun, take a look at kids playing. Do they need to be stimulated?
We’ve just forgotten how to have fun, but like most things about quitting alcohol, having fun is something we can relearn.
I was in the same situation as you, fun meant alcohol. The two went together like apple and pie and they seemed inseparable.
They’re not. There’s plenty of fun to be had in life. What do I do now to have fun?
Is willpower real or a trick of the mind? I know there are times when you need to use all the power of your will to get something difficult done or to avoid doing something you shouldn’t be doing. If you are on a diet, for instance, and you have to work in a bakery, that’s a lot of temptation and a lot of willpower. But what if you’re in a situation where you just can’t indulge. If you have to drive, you can’t drink. It might bother you a little, but you get on with it. When you quit drinking you need to create this environment around yourself, one where the temptations are kept to a minimum… your personal coping area!
Now that you know what triggers are, it’s time for you to find out what triggers are causing your alcohol use to fire off.
Everyone’s triggers are different. I could present you with a long list of triggers that used fire off my alcohol drinking urges, but you might only agree with a few of them. You’ll find your own triggers in the things, places, times, and people in your life that make you want to use alcohol.
Alcoholic triggers are like little switches in your head that create a thought. That thought triggers an impulse to do something, normally subconsciously, and that impulse leads to an action.
Triggers are neither good or bad, they are just part of the system. They are the links that lead you from one automatic action to another. They act as reminders that you need to do something. They are the bonds that make your life tick over from one action to another. A famous example of a trigger is the bell used to induce saliva in Pavlov’s dog experiments.
My thinking has definitely improved, but I can’t believe how much my memory has improved since I quit drinking. I’m not the only one who has noticed this. Every heavy drinker knows the feeling of waking up in the morning and not remembering what you did the night before. This is because when ethanol is in contact with your brain cells, your brain finds it difficult to encode information. That means that your brain finds it hard to assimilate new information.
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