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You Can’t Build Something New While Holding Onto Your Suffering Past
How are you doing… I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcohol mastery.com. Today I wanted to talk about a couple of things that will stop you from getting happiness in this life.
One of them is living in the past and the second one is looking at other people all the time and basing your life around what they are doing.
As you might notice, I’m not in Spain any more. This is the first video that I’ve done in Ireland and is lovely. It’s great being here. I met my new granddaughter there are a couple of days ago and I just feel great.
It’s very strange being back here, it feels like I’m sort of living in the past and I’ve moved on so much, seeing old faces. I haven’t been back here in five years, so it’s very surreal. I am seeing people that I knew, but it’s five years on. They have aged five years. But they are still doing the same old same old. The town that I used to live, Ennis County Clare, is the same old same old. These tracks that walking on, the ones I used to work in, all the forestry around here, is the same. These tracks have been here a long time before I was born, and they will probably be here a long time after I’ve gone.
But, at the same time as that, it’s nice… It’s nostalgic… It’s a nice walk into my own past… But at the same time, it’s sort of sad as well. I see how much I have changed myself, not just because of moving away from you but because of getting away from the lifestyle that used to live while I was here. All my friends, I haven’t met up with any of them yet, I’m not sure if I’m going to. We went out last night for a football match. We went to a local pub, it’s the first time I’ve been in Irish pub for five years. I didn’t even go to Irish pubs when I was in Spain, when I was drinking in Spain, is not the same thing. It’s all very strange here. The pub that I went into wasn’t one that I would normally have gone into while I was drinking. It wasn’t part of my local thing, wasn’t one of the pubs I had gone into lots of times. Esther got a pint of Guinness and I got an alcohol free beer. It was very strange. We were sat there watching the match, it’s something that I do in Spain a lot, every week while the football season is in, and from that perspective I could have been back in Spain. But, there was the open fire, with the turf, the smell of the turf, the Irish accents, the Irish conversations all around me. It was brilliant, it was just one of those things.
I’m nostalgic about the area. It’s nice to be back on holidays. If I didn’t have my son here, if I didn’t have my new granddaughter here, I wouldn’t come back here again. I wouldn’t have any incentive to return. Outside of that, I feel like and taking a step backwards. It’s lovely to come back, but I can definitely see what I moved away from now. I’m glad I did move.
Having said that, I’m going to be coming back your time and time again, because of what’s try me back here.
If you hold onto the things from your past, if you try to hold onto your past… If you are trying to quit drinking and at the same time you are trying to hold onto something of that drinking life, something that used to give you the buzz, it’s very difficult to separate the two. We have a table booked in my haunt, which is a Brogan’s bar in O’Connell Street Ennis. My son works there now. He’s a barman, he is a drug dealer haha… And that’s going to be interesting.
From what my son has told me, the place has changed. So that’s going to be easy enough. I’m walking past pubs that I used to go into. Pubs that I used to drink heavily in. There is no draw any more, it’s just gone. Even when the pint of Guinness came out yesterday, I looked at it and I got nothing, I didn’t get anything, no draw at all. My son was asking me whether, if they had an alcohol free version of Guinness would I drink it, yes, I probably would, I don’t know… I had one alcohol free beer and it lasted me the whole night… The only reason I bought an alcohol free beer was because, in Ireland it’s so expensive to buy bottles of water, it’s lousy out of the tap. I don’t like Coke, I don’t like any of that stuff. In Spain, I’m used to drinking my pint of orange juice, my couple of bottles of water, when I go to watch the matches. The guys behind the counter know exactly what I want, the same as usual… It doesn’t have to be beer, I’m getting the same buzz, the same feeling, going in there, meeting up with my mates… I got the same feeling last night, just walking into a bar, relaxing, the fire was going, sitting in front of the fire, the TV above the fire, watching the match. Unfortunately, the match was rubbish. Arsenal were completely disappointing. But that’s another story. But, if you’re looking for happiness in the past, if you’re looking for happiness in other people, you are just not going to find it because happiness is deep inside yourself.
Look, I’m gonna keep on walking. I don’t know how far I’m going to walk. I have to be back early. I’m not on my own time today, I’m on somebody else’s time. Probably for the whole holiday. But it’s good to relax and not think about things. I thought I’d just a quick video. I’ll do couple while I’m over here.
As I say, from me, it’s a bit nostalgic being back, but there’s nothing for me now here. When I’m in my son’s house, and with my son and that could be anywhere in the world. When we were in the bar last night, watching the football, I could have been back in Spain. It’s just one of those things. I probably stayed a little bit longer than I normally would have a bar, my son was having a pint and we were with his missus as well, and they have just a child and the mother-in-law was looking after the baby so it was the first time they were out. It was nice to sit with them and chill out and relax. We didn’t stay too long.
The past is past. If you want to make inroads into whatever you want to do with life, to push yourself forwards in life, you have to really push yourself to leave behind a lot of the past, leave behind the damaging stuff, the stuff that is holding you back to the alcohol, or to whatever it is in your life, it doesn’t have to be alcohol related, it can be food related, or whatever it is that is keeping you from doing the things that you want to do.
I know this is a bit of a ramble one, I just wanted to do a first video in Ireland and I’m going to carry on walking. Until next time, I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcoholmastery.com, take care of yourself, keep the alcohol out of your mouth, onwards and upwards.
“You can’t have a better tomorrow if you’re always thinking about yesterday”
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
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