You always have choices in life.
Sometimes, in those choices, the only choice you’ve got is the attitude that you have.
Today I wanted to talk about, just sometimes that, the only decision that you can make, the only choice that you’ve got, is the attitude you choose, in a certain situation.
You know, I’ve talked about security, but there’s no real level of security that you can count on to be there forever.
You can be secure to a certain degree.
You can get yourself secure in the knowledge that your job is going to be there for the next six months.
Or you’ve got a few quid in the bank, so, if the worst comes to the worst, and the shit hits the fan, at least you’ve got some money to sort things out and make a new start.
That kind of thing you know.
But even that’s not really secure.
You’ve got to sort of push yourself out of your comfort zone, in order to do things
So attitude, for me is that willingness to go – “Well, what do I need to do now?”
What is it that, what level of discomfort, am I willing to put up with, in order to get what I need to do you know, to get to the place where I need to go.
To push yourself outside that comfort zone in order to get there.
That’s the first part of this attitude thing.
The next part is to do with people.
And you’re always going to get people who don’t agree with what you’re doing, who don’t like what you’re doing for one reason or another.
Who don’t see the same value as you do, in what you’re doing.
And you have to be able to turn round to those people and go –
” Well, look this is what I am doing. I’ve made up my mind to do this. This is what I am going to do now. I’d like you to come along with me, I’d like you to share the journey, I’d like to be there and join me in this wonderful new thing that I’m doing for myself.”
“I am doing it for myself. If you want to come along, come along, if you don’t want to come along then don’t come along – stay where you are – but I’m doing it anyway.”
That’s the attitude that you’ve got to have.
If you’re saying no to people in a Pub who insist that you’re having a drink.
If you’ve got that attitude of you know, like, I’m not having drink your know.
No, No, No, No… Regardless of what they say to you, you’re answer is always – “no, this is what I’m doing for myself. What you want me to do, I’m not going to do, so no.”
You’ve got to have this attitude with people.
And the third part of it is, just in your attitude to general situations, right.
No matter what situations you are in.
It could be the most terrifying experience, that you’ve ever been in, in your life.
By changing your attitude and by, sort of, not talking about positive thinking, I’m talking about facing things head on and not cowering away from them.
If you change your attitude, you’re ten times more likely to succeed or to get through it, than you are if you’ve got a bad attitude.
It’s the power of mind over matter
You know and I hear this all the time with people saying – “Well mind over matter doesn’t work when you’ve got an addiction, when you’re having seizures and all this kind of stuff.”
Fair enough, mind over matter, may not work in that sense.
I don’t think you can cure cancer.
I might be very wrong in this, I might be very wrong in it.
I don’t think you can cure cancer by mind over matter.
I think medical issue you’ve got to have a, you’ve got to have a medical response to it.
You’ve got to go and see the Doctor and go to the hospital, that kind of thing.
But in the beginning, your medical issues are caused by your drinking.
All the alcohol that you’ve put into your mouth, over the years, has accumulated and there’s damage.
And this damage has got to be rectified.
I’m not talking about that, right?
You need to get that sorted out by a Doctor.
But most people are not in that boat.
Most people are going to be able to sort this themselves right, in the head.
And mind over matter comes into account when you’re talking about the discomfort, the cravings, the lack of sleep, all that kind of stuff right.
This is where your attitude makes a big difference.
If you’ve got a bad attitude to this you’re not going to succeed ever.
In this and most other things in life that require discipline and fortitude, require you to be doggedly determined about certain things you know and you know, you’ve got to do it.
Attitude is everything.
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Thanks for the video. Since stopping drinking my attitude is gradually returning to one of curiosity and controlled confidence.
This is so different to the attitude I had when I was drinking. A million miles away.
When I first stopped drinking the single biggest problem was my absolute belief that without alcohol life had no fun in it. Nothing could be further from the truth. Thats just how you think when your addicted to the drug alcohol. This does pass, slowly and in fits and starts it passed for me. This was helped significantly by expanding my knowledge of addiction and my commitment to keep going for a minimum of 12 months no matter what happened. After just 3 or 4 months I am 100% sure I have this addiction well and truly behind me. I am positive about the future and look forward to all the usual stuff like holidays, family get togethers, meals out, plus a few new adventures.
Something else, keep away from people and blogs etc full of stories of failing to quit or harping on our tough it is. This builds the belief that quiting is so hard and it is absolutely not. If you have the right attitude its actually surprisingly easy. Then its just keep a little easy pressure on to make sure you don’t let any twat or any situation get you to have the first drink of alcohol, then enjoy life including its challenges. In no time at all you will be alcohol free and proud!
There are lots of people and business and even family members and close friends who don’t want you to be that. Fuck them, be it anyway, alcohol free and proud, trust me on this one, its so much more fun, it really really is, it just takes a bit of time thats all, you really are missing out if you don’t take the trouble to end your addiction to alcohol.