Today I want to talk about the right time to change.
There’s never a right time to change.
It’s just ludicrous to think that there’s a perfect time to make changes in your life.
If you’re looking for a perfect time, the only perfect time is now, at this time.
Pain shows up in your life for a variety of reasons.
Pain shows up in your life for one reason and one reason only:
to tell you that something is wrong.
That pain could be physical pain, it could be mental pain, something that is happening in your environment, with your relationships, with whatever, but you feeling pain is a sign that something is wrong with you, something needs to change.
You’ve to find the common denominator, you have to find the root cause of the pain, and once you find the real cause of that pain, then you can do something it.
You can make the changes that are needed to make the pain go away.
If you’re looking at this video about perfect time to quit alcohol, then you have some pain associated with alcohol and alcohol is the bottom line.
The lifestyle is the bottom line, and alcohol plays a lot of that.
Once you get rid of the alcohol, the pain will start to go away, once you’re following after something, your end goal, so you have to ask yourself what are you waiting for?
You might have tried to quit drinking a lot of times in the past, but every time you fail for one reason, and that reason is every time you put this stuff into your mouth, you give in to the temptation.
The temptation of the alcohol is stronger than the need for something better.
That momentary temptation, that momentary gratification that you need, that you want to get in your life is stronger than what you want in the long term.
I understand that.
I’ve done that loads of time in my life, my life has been about that up until a few years ago.
Just leading myself down one short little alleyway to find that instant hit after another,
and those alleyways are always dead ends.
They are never going to lead anywhere.
You have to always come back out again to the main road if you want to travel forward.
What happens if you went to the doctor tomorrow, and the doctor said ‘look. This is it. I’m sorry to tell you but you’ve got something wrong with your liver’’
I’ll use that as an instance because that’s the most common thing that people seem to care about.
There are over 200 conditions that can go wrong from drinking alcohol.
But let’s say for instance that he says ‘your liver is sort of half screwed’
And you say ‘Is there anything I can do about it?’
And he says ‘Yeah, what are you doing in your life? What’s your diet?’
And then you tell him about the alcohol, and he asks you how much you’re drinking and you tell him.
And he says ‘yeah, that’s your problem, you have to stop drinking. What’s the consequence if you don’t? Your liver is going to get worse, your fatty liver is going to turn into cirrhosis and once you get cirrhosis you’re screwed. I guess we can’t do anything for you, and you won’t get a liver transplant because you’re not famous, you’re not rich and because you’ve done this to yourself’.
What would you do then?
Would you hum and go ‘yeah I’ve got to commiserate with myself and have a drink, and go down a bottle of wine’?
You’d give up.
if you give a man a big enough reason why, he will put up with almost any how.
If death is there at your door, sickness first, a horrible sickness, a nasty shit sickness, and followed by a cruel death…and that is almost guaranteed if you don’t stop, then hat are you going to do?
You’re going to stop.
So what are you waiting for?
Are you waiting for the doctor to tell you something like this?
Because you continue on with the drinking, that’s the likelihood that something bad is going to happen.
Maybe it’s not your doctor telling you that you’ve got cirrhosis, maybe it’s your parent that’s saying ‘look you’re a tool. I don’t like what you’re doing to yourself, and I don’t like what you’re doing to this family, so get stuffed. Get off, I don’t want you anymore.’?
Or you’re waiting for your employer to say ‘you’re a dickhead. You’re not doing your job anymore. You’re fired.’
I’m not saying this because I want to be a dickhead myself, it’s not about that.
It’s about you saying these things to yourself and being realistic with your own life.
It’s easy to sit down and go ‘well, I don’t want to think about this, and I’ve got a really handy tool not to think about it and that tool is to sit there and drink myself to a stupor. No I don’t have to think about any of this’
But you have to realize that every drink you take makes your situation worse, and every drink that you don’t take makes your situation better.
So, it’s a no brainer which route you should be taking, which road you should be travelling down.
Keep that in mind when you’re thinking about buying stuff, about buying alcohol and putting it into your mouth. Just get real, you know.
There’s a quote – somebody said it’s Socrates but I’m not sure about that, seems a bit modern to me –
‘’the secret to success is to focus your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new’’
That’s what you have to do.
Don’t wait anymore, don’t wait until the perfect time.
Don’t wait until the doctor is knocking on your door and telling you that you’ve got to go to the hospital.
Don’t wait until your wife or your husband is opening the door and saying adios.
Don’t wait until something bad happens.
Until your kid turns to you and says ‘dad why are you drunk all the time?’, ‘mum why do you keep doing this to yourself?’
The other day, one of my nieces turned round at the dinner table.
My sister is the only one that smokes, she’s the youngest one, so she went out for a cigarette.
Just as she walked out the door I heard her say to her mum ‘’mummy, does Maria not care about living? Does she not care about her health?’’
She’s only 7, and she said that, and I thought ‘oh my God’
That’s basically it.
We have to see for ourselves what a 7 year old can see nowadays, and the information is out there.
It’s all there at your fingertips.
There’s no excuse.
At the end of the day, nobody else is being hurt by this except you.
You hurt other people but they have a choice to say ‘I’m not doing this anymore, I’m not sticking with this anymore’.
Some people have a choice.
Your kids may not, they still have to have you as mum and dad but…
The point is, there is no perfect time to quit.
The perfect time is right now, at this moment.
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Until then, have a great week, have a safe week.
Keep the alcohol out of your mouth.
If you’re going to do it, do it now.
Don’t wait until New Year’s Day.
Take the action and move towards what you want to do with your life.
If you can do that then you won’t want to drink again, that’s the point.
THE RIGHT TIME IS NOW
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!