I suppose one of the biggest things that I’m looking for in life is content.
You know, I read a lot of stories about people when they get to the later years to ’70s in the ’80s. And just to be content with life, to be content with looking after your grandchildren to be content with what you’ve done in life and to be happy.. You know, to be happy at where you are, even though you’re heading towards your final years. But long term success like this doesn’t just happen, long term happiness and contentment doesn’t happen, you have to work at it, you have to put in the hard yards. If you want to have success in business, you’ve got to put in the work, if you want to have success in the job, same thing in a relationship..
So, what more important place to put in the work than in your life? It’s never too late to do this, by the way, you can change at any time that you want. It’s just you have to start getting the determination, commit to yourself, get the responsibility that you need, take that responsibility and then start pushing forwards and putting in those hard hours that you need to do. But this is one of the problems these days is that people are not willing to put in that hard work or they think that by looking for a short term solution, for a quick fix they think that is actually the hard work. And it’s not hard work, it’s starting out at the bottom of that mountain, looking up and seeing where you’ve got to go, to get to the top and putting in the steps step by step by step in order to get there. Because when you get to the top, then you look down and look at what you’ve achieved, metaphorically or physically, you look back down and you’ve had an achievement, you get the boost from that, you get the happiness from knowing that you’ve done that. And that’s what it’s all about is the emotional, the emotional happiness, that you get that contentment in yourself that you’ve achieved something.
Otherwise, what’s the point? I mean, you can start at the bottom of a mountain, and you can take the quick fix, and you can get the cable car up, or you can drive up if there’s a road going up, or you can take the helicopter. But what is the point in doing that, because the view from the top will not be anywhere near as sweet, as if you climbed up yourself. And you did that step by step. And so with life, this is the same thing. And I took me a long, long time to figure this out. So don’t worry if you’re in the same boat, and you’re thinking to yourself, this guy’s just disguise of wangka telling me all this stuff, you know, I’ve been there, I was that person for so many years, just looking for the quick fix looking for the quick way out trying to do as little as possible in order to survive. But it doesn’t get you anywhere.
Because even logically, if it seems like it’s gonna work, it doesn’t, all it does is it screws around with your long term emotions, because it’s not going to make you happy, it’s not going to give you that feeling of satisfaction that everybody needs. And this is a delusion that has been forced on us by our culture, by our societies by the people that are closest to us. You know, unbeknownst to our parents, they were giving us this thing. Every time you look at an alcohol advert, they’re playing this specific magic pill, or a magic elixir in their case, right, which is going to solve all your problems, it will make you happy, it will make you sexy, or make you give you everything that you need in life. But it’s a complete delusion. And it’s called alcohol. Everyone knows who’s ever had any long term, association with alcohol that gives him none of these things, that the only way to get these things is through hard work. When you finish your day at the end of the toil. You feel happy because of what you’ve achieved. The problem is that behind this delusion that they’re trying to spout these alcohol companies or any there’s so many different areas that people are trying to spout this instant gratification mindset.
Behind that reality, behind the delusion is the reality of unhappiness, of depression, of people that are not achieving anything of dependence. And you can be dependent on so many different things. It doesn’t have to be an actual, somebody’s product, it can be a way of living your life you can get dependent on that can be a way of thinking. You can get dependent on that. So I think the worst thing behind alcohol behind this delusion of instant gratification or the instant gratification mindset is the fractured relationships that you’re going to find in life, the misery that you’re going to find, because there is no happiness and the disease that something like alcohol will give you eventually, and the premature death, and it’s not just a parameter of death that you can look forward to, is a really horrible, you, you’re risking at least a really horrible end to your life.
We did a video recently about the consequences of cirrhosis of the liver, have a look at that one. Just look for stories on the Internet of people who have got these end stage, alcohol related diseases, cirrhosis of the liver, saggy heart syndrome, wet brain. They all tell horrible stories, not only for the person that’s going through them physically, mentally, but for the people that are around them. You know, the people that stick there with them.