How are you doing? I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcoholmastery.com.
Today, I want to talk about just shifting your paradigm, your viewpoint 30 years down the road in your own life.
20 years down the road, what are you going to be doing then?
Who are you going to be?
What type of person are you going to be?
I find this to be great exercise if you’re making a decision to quit and you’re trying to figure out if you want to quit now or take it on down the road and not quit yet.
Until you cross that line, just think about yourself a year, 2 years, 5 years and 10 years down the road from two different aspects.
From one aspect, think about things from the perspective of you carrying on drinking and what you’re going to be like then.
When I stopped drinking, most of my time, I was trying to grasp on and hold on to what was already in my life, to hold on to what I already had and stop losing a lot of the stuff that I was losing.
From both a physical sense in the world around you, I was trying to not lose customers because I was in the business.
I wanted to keep people happy.
I was trying to not have to work too hard because alcohol was taking its toll on me physically and mentally.
But I was at the same time trying to hold on to the things I had.
But that’s not what I’m talking about.
The second part of this is to also look at your future from when you quit drinking alcohol.
So you first of all look at it from 10 years down the road, so for me, you know that as you’re holding on to things, you’re trying to hold on to the status quo and it’s gradually slipping away from you.
What’s that going to look like in 10 years?
What about 5 years?
And the same thing once I stopped drinking, it’s no longer about holding on to the status quo, it’s about growth and trying to see what I can become.
That’s the great thing about trying to visualise your future in 5 years time.
Look at where you’re going to be.
It’s very difficult.
It was difficult for me a the beginning to see where I would be in 5 years’ time.
I had an idea of where I wanted to be, and I can safely say that I have surpassed that in so many different ways. Not in the sense of the material things that I have.
I realised that those things are just fleeting and don’t mean much.
But in the sense of what I know and who I am as a person, what I feel about myself and what I feel in my own levels of self-confidence.
You can only think with the same mind that you’ve got at the time.
So you can only visualise yourself from the perspective of the person you are in the moment.
It’s very difficult to try and see yourself as being a different person if you can’t think with that mind, if you understand what I mean.
So, anyway, this video here is about trying to see yourself from the perspective of that growth, and trying to see what you’re going to be like in ten years’ time if you have that growth mind-set.
And, from my perspective, I want to see myself as an 80-year old.
So I’m looking at 30 years down the road for 80, 40 ears for 90 and 50 years for a hundred.
That’s the way I want to look at things now.
I remember having the conversation with my brother last year when he came over.
I asked him a question.
I said ‘what do you reckon now? Dad’s gone and he’s in his 80s.’
And to be honest, none of us thought he’d reach his 83rd year, you know, because he had a heart attack when he was 50.
A lot of different things were wrong with him.
But I think he changed his lifestyle towards the end and extended his life span a little bit.
Anyway we were talking and wondering how long we’d live, and I said ‘oh yeah, 100’, and he says ‘I’m going for 120.’
I said, ‘so am I! I’m going to shift my target upwards’.
It was a bit tongue-in-cheek, but it’s a different way of looking at things.
You can look at your life and if you make changes in your life, and the direction you live, the amount of time you live, the quantity of time you live is important, but also the quality is important, and is down to you.
You can enhance and you can live longer, but you can also live a more quality life by making changes in yourself now.
And those changes might be difficult in the beginning, but they’re worthwhile.
And once you make the changes, it’s amazing how your body and mind adapt, and the changes become a part of who you are.
Exercise is a good example for this.
It’s very difficult to go from sedentary to starting an exercise program.
But once you start, it gets easier.
One of the people that got me over into going into the whole foods lifestyle was a guy called T. Colin Campbell.
He’s a guy who comes from a farming background in the US.
His family raised cattle and he ate meat until he was in his 40s or 50s.
Anyway, through a series of different studies that he participated in which I won’t go through here, he decided that one of the best lifestyles was to eat a whole foods, plant based diet.
So you get rid of all animal products, all dairy, anything that comes from an animal, you get out of your life.
You don’t eat processed food.
This guy is in his mid 80s and he still looks fit as a fiddle.
There’s another guy called Esselstyne, I can’t remember his first name, but he’s the same type of person.
He’s in his 80s and out cycling.
It’s all down to that kind of mentality.
Another way of looking at this is retirement.
I’ve always been brought up with the idea that you get to 65 years of age and you retire.
People say ‘you won’t be able to retire at 65 now, you will be retiring when you’re close to 70’
Retirement to me is a horrible word.
It’s like I’m never going to retire.
If you work in a factory, then I can understand it.
But working in a factory is a choice you make.
If you want to work in a factory and you want to go home and watch TV all night, then you can do that.
That’s all you’re going to amount to.
If you work in a factory and go home and study for something different, you can do something different in your life.
It all depends on you.
I’m a growth minded person.
<strong?I believe that what you’re born with is just a starting box; What you get after that, that makes all the difference in your life.
It’s what you do and what you build on.
If you keep building on the skill you’ve got, you get momentum, it’s like a snowball going down the hill.
You get more momentum and achieve more in your life.
For me, retirement is not an option.
I don’t want to retire until I fall down and can’t do anymore.
But that’s my life anyway.
It’s just an idea to look forward in your life, 10, 20, 30 years with a growth mind-set; with a mind-set that age is just a number, and you have a lot to do with your quality of life.
Look at your own life from your own perspective.
See what you want to do and how you can make it happen.
Whether it is in 10 or 20 years time. Look at it when you’re 95.
What type of person are you going to be?
I read about a guy in England called The Tornado or something.
He’s an Indian guy with a turban, and he was the oldest person to run a marathon.
He was over 100, I think he was.
That’s the way I want to look at life.
I want to be doing things that challenge me when I get to that age.
You’ve got certain amounts of things that you can’t do anymore.
Physically you can’t do certain things.
I’ve been able to jump off a 10-foot wall when I was younger, and roll on the ground, and get up and run off.
If I try to do that now, I don’t think I’d get up for a week if I do get up again.
You have to limit what you can do, but apart from that, I think mental limitations you can work around.
You don’t have to jump off a 10-foot wall now, I have a ladder.
I can afford to go out and buy a ladder and fucking climb down off the wall.
Just look at things from a different perspective and see how that affects what you’re doing now and what you will do in the future.
I hope you got something out of this video.
It’s a bit rambly.
Until next time, keep the alcohol out of your mouth.
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Onwards and Upwards!