“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” – Thomas Edison
Yesterday we had a video about stopping doubting yourself. Today’s video is about the next step, putting in the hard work and pushing yourself until you feel uncomfortable. If you’re not feeling uncomfortable, you are not heading in the right direction.
Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like hard work.
That’s Thomas Edison.
I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcoholmastery.com.
When it’s time to quit drinking, you have to step across that starting line and be prepared to put in some time hard work and effort on yourself.
You’re the only one who is truly going to benefit from this.
Other people are going to benefit as a result of what you do to yourself, but the biggest benefit is going to come to you.
Quitting drinking is the easy part.
You just don’t put it inside your body.
That’s it, period.
As long as you don’t put it in, that’s that first goal achieved.
But the goal of alcohol mastery, if you want to get rid of this stuff for the rest of your life and never want it again, then you need to get rid of the behaviour.
You need to get rid of the thinking, the rituals, the behaviour and eventually the habit is going to disintegrate because it has nothing to hold it up.
One of the reasons why many people fail, I’d say 60-70% of people fail, is because stepping across that starting line is the hardest part of it.
Those first few weeks.
That first 30 days is so crucial.
I think it should be a target for everyone, to get to 30 days, because once you get there, you’ve achieved something.
You understand a lot more about yourself.
You understand a lot more about your alcohol drinking.
You understand a lot more about what it’s like not to drink, and you gain confidence through it.
But it’s that initial fear, it’s this realisation that quitting drinking and not putting the stuff into your body is a whole different level.
You have to put up with the discomfort.
You have to go through some pain, and that’s hard work.
That’s why a lot of people fail.
The way I look at this is, fair enough, it is hard work.
But anything in life that is worthwhile is worth putting the effort into.
It’s exciting ad you have to reframe it as that.
It’s not depressing.
It’s not something you’re mourning the loss of, it’s alcohol.
It’s a curse.
Your life has been going downhill.
Like I say, most drinkers are trying to hold on to what they have.
They’re not trying to build, just trying to hold on to what they’ve got.
What they’ve got is gradually seeping away and they see this daily.
They see that their life is slipping away slowly and surely.
They don’t want to admit that it’s the alcohol that’s causing it.
They’d rather think that it’s because they haven’t got a certain something in their lives.
Because they weren’t born with the features of Beyoncé or whatever.
But, for me, if you can change your framework and start to see your life after you stop drinking as an exciting evolution, as a part of a grand journey, something which you get up every morning and you’re excited about starting the day.
You’re excited about what the day is going to bring.
You’re excited because you’re growing instead of going backwards.
Your life is growing and you’re bringing the people around you on this journey of growth with you.
Stop doubting yourself.
If you have doubts, the best way of overcoming them is by taking the actions you need to take.
By stepping over that starting line, and be willing to put in the hard work.
You will never get anything in this life no matter what it is, you won’t achieve anything if you’re not willing to put in the hard work.
If you’re always looking for the easy way out, you’ll never get anything.
You have to put in the hard work and put up with the discomfort.
Don’t put it off because the more you procrastinate, the more you will put it off and you’ll never do it.
It’s going to be hard.
There’s a concept called Habit Gravity which I learned from the guy who was talking about making the most of your mornings.
Basically, in the first few days of changing any habit or trying to bring in a new habit, the first few days are the toughest.
There’s a steep gradient.
There’s a lot of hard work to do to get to the top.
But once you get over a certain level, and that is the magic mark off. It could be 30 days or 60, but it’s a gradual slope.
It starts of as vertical, but as you get through days 3 and 4, it starts getting less and less vertical and more horizontal.
By the time you get to day 30, you’re almost at the top.
And once you get over a certain mind-set in your head, then you plateau at the top and starts to go down.
Then it stars to get easier and you build momentum gong forwards.
It is hard work.
When you’re out of this and you’ve got past it all and you don’t drink anymore, then you will think back and say ‘it was tough at times, but it’s easy enough’.
You might forget about all the hard work that you did actually have to put in. But it’s worthwhile.
Everything about this journey is worthwhile because it’s bringing you on a journey of growth.
You don’t know what’s around the corner.
In the old days of drinking, when you thought about what was around the corner, you felt like shitting yourself because you thought it was going to be something bad.
A downhill journey when you’re just trying to hold on to the reality that you have, a downhill journey form that perspective means that around the corner there might be something bad.
An uphill journey, you’re more than likely to find something exciting, something that is going to thrill you, something that’s going to pull you forwards into the next journey.
That’s the best thing about this life.
Don’t be afraid of sticking on those overalls and doing the hard work because it’s one of those things where it’s the hardest in the beginning in those first few days and weeks.
Because you have to build up a momentum.
But once you get i going, it carries you forwards.
The more momentum you build, the easier it gets.
Think about getting a car pushed.
Have you ever tried to push a car that’s broken down and you have to give it a jumpstart.
I remember years ago we were out selling.
I used to be a door to door salesman.
When I was in my late teens, we travelled all around Ireland with a guy who had a mini.
There were 3 of us and we were all big lads.
This thing broke down just across the border in Northern Ireland.
We were visiting someone.
It was 1 am.
I don’t know, it was a woman.
This guy who was like 40 was the leader.
He just visited this fucking random woman who came to the door in her dressing gown.
It was about 10 o clock at night.
We returned to the hotel and he went back to the woman’s house.
I don’t know who the hell she was.
Anyway we got up the next morning and it was pitch black outside. We tried to start this mini and it wouldn’t go.
So we tried to push it, and it was the heaviest car that I’ve ever tried to push in my life.
We swore that he had the handbrake on.
But getting back to the analogy, when you try and push a car, it’s the hardest to try and get it moving.
Once it moves, you start getting momentum and it gets easier to shift it, unless you’re going uphill.
But in the terms of habit gravity, the more movement you get, the more experience you get moving forwards into the new thing that you want to do, the easier it gets to move forward.
You can create an uphill journey for yourself if you insist on looking at alcohol like it’s something you’ll really miss in your life, like it’s something that adds value.
If you do that, you’re putting obstacles in your own way.
So, stick on those overalls.
Do the hard work, and I’ll see you next time.
Come on over to the website and if you’re looking for help to quit your own drinking habit and get away from alcohol, you can sign up for Quit Drinking starter pack, if you’re interested in that.
It’s full of different bits and pieces to help you. It has a couple of video courses and books.
Give us your name and email address and I’ll send it out to you.
Until next time, stay safe and keep the alcohol out of your mouth.
LLIFE BEGINS AT THE END OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
Thank you Kevin, as usual inspiring but this particulary helped, the reality of what it means to give up. A little discomfort and I’m back to square one, it was good to hear that it will be difficult but it will get easier ?