Today, I want to talk about mistakes, that they are proof that you’re trying and you’re on the right path. Just think about anything that you’ve ever done in your life, anything you’ve ever learned, any topic you’ve ever studied. Anything you do or have done, every success has always been peppered with mistakes. One mistake after another. In this video, I talk about the benefits of mistakes, the inevitability of mistakes, and how they make you into a much stronger person.
How’re you doing? I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcoholmastery.com
Today, I want to talk about mistakes, that they are proof that you’re trying an on the right path.
Just think about anything that you’ve ever done in your life, anything you’ve ever learned, any topic you’ve studied.
Anything you’ve done, every success has always been peppered with mistakes.
One mistake after another.
I don’t know if you’ve ever played video games.
I haven’t got a video game machine anymore, but when my son was living in the house, we always had a PlayStation and we had an x box.
The PlayStation had one of my favourite games, chasing Nazis.
It was one of these games based on World War 2.
You couldn’t see yourself, only the guns taking out and you were off playing like a soldier.
I love those games.
Another one we played was called Jack and Daxter, and it was in a cartoony alien world with this guy who was sort of an alien, sort of a creature.
He had a little shrew won his shoulder, like a big rat if I can remember rightly.
But all these games require you to go through different stages.
The amount of time you’re killed is enormous, you’re killed over and over again.
You get killed and figure out something and you’re able to get past a certain point and then you move on.
Then you get killed again and the same thing happens over and over again.
It’s the same thing with anything you’re going to learn in life.
There’s mistake after mistake, and you lose more times than you gain.
But it’s through those mistakes that you actually learn something about what’s wrong and things you need to try differently.
Eventually you get it figured out.
It’s the same way with your failures.
I don’t want anyone to fail with quitting drinking, nobody should fail.
Because it all boils down to the same thing: don’t put it into your mouth.
The reason most people fail at quitting drinking is because they don’t deal with the outside of their lives, with everything else, the gaps and parts of their lives missing because they took the alcohol out.
When you take alcohol out of your life, it’s a massive behaviour that you took off by its roots, and it just leaves so many different holes in your thinking, your behaviour, your day-to-day life, and you have to fill those holes with something.
It’s an ongoing process.
It’s a dynamic process.
It takes time for it to mature out and evolve, but it’s something you have to deal with.
That’s why I say, try to prepare yourself before you quit.
Try to figure out what exactly what you’re going to be doing to overcome the cravings, when you’re bored shitless and don’t know what to do; when you would normally drink and try to relax but can’t because your trusted glass of wine is gone.
Figure out what you’re going to be doing when you can’t sleep at night.
All those things in the early days are going to harm you if you don’t have a plan.
So you have to figure out what to do when you get to this roadblock.
If you have a plan, it clicks and you go ‘This is what I planned. I feel the craving now, so I’m going to get up and do something differently. I can’t sit now. This is what I’m going to do. I’m going to get up and go out into the front room. I’m going to read a book and ty again in half an hour’ or whatever it is.
You have to have a plan of action.
When you’re filling these gaps with other things, when you’re dealing with the cravings and sleeplessness, with not being able to relax, with socialising without alcohol, all these areas are going to be new with you.
You’ve done them before; you’ve done relaxation, you’ve gone out socialising, but you haven’t done them without alcohol so you’re going to make mistakes in this area.
You’re going to do things that don’t work for you.
Don’t give up.
It’s just a mistake, it’s a learning process.
Figure out why it didn’t work, or try something differently next time, move somewhere different, try putting on different music or candles.
Try something differently, anything you can think of that shifts the emphasis away from what you’ve been doing, and pushes you slightly into a different direction.
That’s a learning process, and it’s through this process that you learn.
So don’t look at failure as anything else but learning opportunities.
Every mistake you make is a sign of progress, even if you don’t think it is.
It’s a sign that you’re moving forward.
There’s an old saying that all it takes is one mistake to change everything.
You can look at that from two different perspective: a negative one which says that this mistake, everything was going good and you made the mistake, now everything is gone; or you can look at it like ‘I made a mistake and it changed everything i thought about my life’.
That was what pushed me over the edge with my son. I went out drinking with my son.
I had a right fucking load of booze in different pubs and we ended up on the beach and we were rolling around on the beach, messing around and stuff like that.
And he lost his iPod in the sand.
He didn’t realise it until the next day, and we went looking for it.
I remember just watching him walking up and down, and that was a mistake but that mistake changed everything in my life.
So, every failure has got that opportunity to progress, to move you forward and to be a better person and get the life you want, to learn about yourself and your life.
It’s just a good, positive way of looking at things.
Every success in life has always been peppered by mistakes, everything you’ve ever learned in your life.
So, take mistakes as a sign you’re moving forward and going in the right direction.
I’m going to leave it there and carry on walking .
Until next time, take care of yourself and keep the alcohol out of your mouth.
MISTAKES ARE MEANT FOR LEARNING, NOT REPEATING.
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!