Life isn’t designed to be easy, and neither is quitting drinking alcohol.
Today, I want to talk about getting outside your comfort zone.
Life is not about being easy.
You can’t get the things that you want in life if you’re going on the easy route all the time.
The best things in life are always going to be once you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone.
Once you get away from the thing that you want, that easy, instant, one-time gratification because…it just doesn’t deliver the things that you need in life.
It’s just not the way life works.
If you want to move away from alcohol into a better life, put more money in your account, put more esteem in your internal account, self-esteem, then you’ve got to go through the discomfort.
You have to push yourself outside the comfort zone.
That’s what habits are about.
It’s about this place where you’re too comfortable, and you’re doing what you know and understand.
Unfortunately, for most people who are addicted to anything in life, who are doing something against their will so to speak, something that they see as being against their best interest, people are afraid that they’d rather do this one thing, they’d rather carry on with the destructive path they’re on rather than put up with the inevitable discomfort that comes with stepping outside their comfort zone.
They would rather stick to the diminishing returns that they get from the alcohol.
The inevitable downhill slide, and just hope against hope that it’s never going to happen to them.
That even though their hangover is getting worse, even though they’re not getting the same buzz as they used to get out of the alcohol.
Party time is over.
Time to grow up.
Even though they know these things, they still hope that this is just a phase, and everything will get better.
That they’ll still be able to drink as much as they want.
It’s not going to happen.
At the end of the day this is a drug that you’re taking.
You have to see it like a drug.
You have to get away from it.
There’s no other way I can say this.
You’ve got to grow up.
You have to get to the point and say ‘I know this is causing me agony and I’m going to do something about it now.
From now on I’m not going to drink anymore.
That’s what you have to say to yourself because tomorrow is not going to come. Five minutes away is never going to come.
You know it will come, but it won’t come from the perspective of I’ll quit in five minutes.
I’ll just have this last drink, this last outing.
Once you’re keeping the alcohol alive and strengthening it.
You’re strengthening it every time you do this to yourself.
You’re just strengthening I instead of putting up with the discomfort.
The thing about staying in your comfort zone is you’re stagnant, or you’ll even go backwards, you’ll regress.
All the things that you’ve built up and achieved in your life.
You’re not only denying yourself the possibility of achieving more in the future but you’re risking losing what you’ve already got.
For what? So you can pour a poison into your body.
Get outside your comfort zone.
You have to do this.
You are not going to be able to find an easy way around this.
You can go to the doctors and ask for a pill that will make quitting drinking really easy, and your doctor might say ‘I’ve got just the thing’, but he’s feeding you bullshit because there is no such thing as that.
The drugs that you can take to quit drinking, the one that I know about, you take the pill and every time you drink, it makes you want to vomit because your body just can’t deal with the alcohol.
It blocks your body from dealing with the alcohol and your body can’t break it down, and you end up feeling sick very time you take a drink.
Is that what you want?
You’ve still got drinking in your head.
You’ve still got the idea that you want to drink, but every time you do go to have a drink, you get sick.
It just doesn’t make any sense.
If you get yourself into the right frame of mind that alcohol is a drug, alcohol is a poison.
What you’re seeing as being a buzz is your body going through toxic poisoning and instead of owning up to the reality and going ‘this is not something I want in my life, I’m going to get rid of it, I’m putting myself through the discomfort of having the alcohol in, preparing for all this in advance’, getting yourself into the position where you’re fired up for this, stepping across that starting line and going ‘I’m not going to drink again. I’m putting up with the discomfort’.
There’s many ways to this.
The whole point of it that when you push yourself outside your comfort zone, when you’re in that space after quitting drinking and you’re in that position, if you feel that this is the wrong decision, or you want to go back into your shell and go back to drinking again, that’s exactly what you want to be.
Because that is where most of the gains are made.
This is where your brain is going to win because every little victory that you get builds up on the last victory.
Every time you feel that discomfort and go ‘can I really do this? Is this really the right path?’ every time you do that and you refuse to go back, you make it easier for yourself to go through the next step and defeat the next habit.
You build yourself strength on strength.
Willpower and self-discipline, these are all what we call muscles.
As you go forwards with this, the more you can say no and put those craving behind you.
The more you can think to yourself ‘what if I go back, should I really go back?’ that’s when you make the decisions.
It’s the same thing as gong to the gym, it’s not the 12 rep that build the muscle.
It’s 13th rep, the one that you don’t think you can do, that’s the one that gets you the biggest gains.
It’s when you’re out walking and trying to build up your stamina to walk better, it’s not the 14th KM that is tiring you, it’s the 15th KM and the 16th that you push yourself to do when you don’t think you can do it.
It’s when you’re sat in a party and someone offers you a drink and you’re tired and feeling a little low about yourself and feeling stressed, all you want to do is have a drink.
Your old habit is screaming at you ‘just have the one drink and you can start again tomorrow. You’re only 3 days into this. You can start again’.
It’s those moments when you push yourself past that moment, and you realise that you really don’t want the alcohol.
You gain strength upon strength.
To get anywhere in this life whether is quitting drinking or getting rid of another habit, or to build something in your life, you have to get outside your comfort zone or you’re never going to achieve anything of value.
Because everything of value means that you’ve got to put effort in.
life is easy.
The best things in life are free looking up in the sky, singing a song, reading a book, whatever you think of as the best things in life, they’re free.
Breathing the air…the things that are going to bring you the biggest value at the end of the day are all going to cost you something.
We’ve grown accustomed to cost being associated with monetary value and that’s bullshit.
Where the value lies is in terms of your personal effort.
In the terms of your personal discomfort, you have to push yourself outside your comfort zone.
Get into your discomfort zones, and that’s where you’re going to make the most gains.
I hope you got something out of this.
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Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
Thank you! I enjoy your videos, both the topics and the nature walk background.
good sermon today. I mean that in a good way.
Awsome video thank you.
Thanks so much I needed to hear it today! No alcohol since January 1st. I feel much clearer in my thinking. Your videos really help me know I can beat this.
Well said Kevin, I’m engoying these videos ?,9 weeks going strong