Today I just wanted to talk about people being afraid of what other people think about them right. Social pressure and all this kind of stuff. Fear of what other people are going to think when you quit drinking, or when you change to, to doing a weird diet or something, you know. Anything that you’re doing for yourself that’s going to better you.
If you’re afraid of doing what, it because of what other people think then just take a look at what they’re doing in their own lives and choose your critics wisely. I think it was Alan Sugar who said that, somebody like that anyway. I think a lot of people have said it over the years.
Especially when you’re thinking about quitting drinking. When somebody says to you – “What you are doing? What! Are you Mad? What do you do for fun? What do you do for this? You know, oh! one drinks not going to harm you.” This is not doing to do you any good you know. Look at them. These are people who are deliberately, consistently, putting alcohol, a toxin, a poison, a very harmful poison, into their body, time after time, after time, after time.
And then sitting there saying “What do you mean? You’re not having fun!” I tell you now four years later, there is no fun in it! It’s a fucking delusion. It’s just a bullshit delusion that people have been fostering on each year for fucking years.
I’ve never had so much fun in my life. I’ve never done so many things. I’ve never felt so good about myself. So, full of self confidence, than I have in the last few years, because I’ve done that, because I’ve stopped drinking. Because I’ve stopped putting this poison into my system and poisoning my system. Ah! just madness!
You know, I’m out here, seven O’clock in the morning, haven’t had a hangover in four years and I feel great, you know. Every morning, I get up now, I feel good. I don’t feel great every morning. Sometimes, I feel crappy because whenever, whatever, life happens you know. But for the best part I feel great.
You know when you hear people talking to you like this and trying to convince to you do what they want you to do. Don’t take the bait. These people are in the midst of something and they don’t want to see other people doing better, because they’re stuck in something that they don’t want to do themselves.
They might think – “Oh well, this is a good life and stuff like that.” – but they don’t think that in the morning. You know they hide all these feelings the next time they go out for drink. You know, if you thought well, every morning I’m going to get up with a hangover, but tonight I’m having fun you know.
Underneath it all, that’s what they’re thinking. Underneath it all they’ve got this knowledge, that following the rains, there’s always going to be the flood, that kind of mentality, you know. Don’t take the bait.
I mean look at this in both the short term and the long term right. I’m talking about short term gratification, right? We’re all into that, these days. We’re all into trying to get our buzz on now, trying to get the magic pill – we want happiness, now right?
I mean, I’m on the happiness pill now, you know. Short term gratification, talk about this, you know. Go out and walk fourteen, fifteen kilometres, wherever you life. I happen to live here, so I can go up into the mountain, but wherever you live there’s somewhere where you can go, where you can get out walking.
I mean, in the onwards and upwards, group. I see so many different photographs going by, of what people are doing when they stop drinking. You know, they’re sending in pictures, posting pictures of – “I’m out here today!” “I’m doing this today” “I’m doing that today” “I feel great!”
It’s just like, that’s it, that’s the buzz. Regardless of where you are getting your buzz from. It’s a natural buzz, it’s a free buzz. It’s something that’s not killing you, it’s adding to your life, you know, adding to your feelings.
But even if, think about it in the short term right. You know, as a non drinker, I get up every morning, every single morning, without a hangover, right? I get up every single morning, feeling good. As I said don’t feel great some mornings, but get up most mornings, feeling good, you know, feeling good about the day ahead.
Most drinkers, get up feeling at least sluggish, because they’ve been drinking the night before – at least sluggish, right? If not hungover and the hangover like I said before, is just a word for alcohol poisoning.
And then they go through the day and they have the alcohol withdrawal. And either they succumb to it that night, or they succumb to it the next day or the next day, right? But eventually they will succumb to it, because they’re having alcohol withdrawal. They get the alcohol withdrawal. And the alcohol withdrawal, phycological alcohol withdraw mostly.
And, think about this in the long-term. You know what’s going to happen in the long run. Ten years down the line where are you going to be. Four years down the line, I’m in a fucking, whole heap, much better situation, than I was four years ago.
I feel so much better about my life, I’ve done so much with my life, I’m achieving so much in my life now that I wasn’t achieving before. I was going backwards.
So, imagine where I’m going to be ten years down the line. Anyone who’s quit drinking and posted, you know, sent me an email. And I get loads of them, right, I’m getting emails from people who have quit drinking and I’m getting an email, after a year or two years. And they say Gees, I can’t believe how much more my life is different now, you know, for the better. All the time for the better.
No one has ever sent me an email – ever, right? After a year and said “yeah, my life is worse than what it was a year go” I even get emails from people after a month and say – “Well, do you know, you know I find it very difficult, you know, or I’m finding this difficult or that difficult.” But once they push past that, and they push onwards a little bit, they find that things start improving, you know.
This is only short-term; it takes a few months before the whole habit disappears and this is where people find a lot of problems is in the first month or so. The habit’s still there, you know, it’s still in the background. You might have got over a few of the kinks and the daily routine and stuff, but you know, the habits still there.
And you know, the life style is still there, so you have to change a lot of the lift style, but after a year, I’ve never had anyone say to me – “yeah, this is, you know, I wish I was back on the booze, you know!” No one says that, it’s always – “I can’t believe how much, how good my life is now.”
Think about then years down the line, for you, personally if you’re off the drink. Think about ten years down the line, when you don’t drink. If I think from when I was forty back to when I was thirty. In those ten years, I probably put on more than likely about a hundred pound in weight, because of alcohol, because of the lifestyle. I mean, I had a fairly active job, but I still put the weight on, because of the amount of alcohol I was drinking.
The amount of shit that I put myself through and other people through in my life because of the amount that I was drinking. And that just increased over ten years. So, if I look, if I didn’t stop at forty-seven, what I would be like, or forty-six – what would I be like at fifty-six, six years’ time down the road. I can’t imagine what I would have been like, you know. If I would have been alive?
I could see myself the way I was going and the amount of alcohol that I was putting inside my body, that I would have been dead, in, you know, ten years from then. That was my fear. I woke up sometimes during the night, thinking that I was going to have a heart attack, there and then in the bed, that I wasn’t going to make it and really shitting myself scared sort of thing, you know, really scared and frightened.
And I don’t feel that any more, you know. I feel like if, I was saying to my Brother recently, he says – “How long would you like to live for?” I said – “As long as possible, you know. If you want to target, about one hundred, you know.” He goes “Oh well, I’ll` go one hundred and twenty”.
He drinks a little bit, he doesn’t drink much, but he’s a Vegan and he looks after himself, he runs and he does a lot of stuff like that, you know? And he’s going one hundred and twenty. So, I said – “yeah that’s not a bad target. I’ll think I’ll change to one hundred and twenty, actually, I’ll do one hundred and thirty, you know, because I don’t drink anymore and you drink, so I’m going to add another ten years onto my life because of that.”
And he was sort of …. My Sister quit as well, lately, she’s off it a month, and she said she’d never felt so good and this is for me, she was a little worry for me, she was my younger Sister. And she was always a little worry because she could pack it away, you know. And she was proud of it as well. Which is a different story isn’t it – it’s one of those things. But anyway, I’m getting totally off.
But look at short term and long term. Look at the benefits of the short term, versus the long term, both in terms of quitting drinking and not quitting drinking. You’ll see that there’s no, you know, yeah. For somebody that hasn’t quit drinking, I think, it’s easy to say, well short term benefits – “Yeah I get a buzz out of it.” – and you can’t see past that you know.
But once you get off and you’re off it for a month, two months, three months, you’ll start to get experience and you’ll start to see the benefits, you know and this is when, this is the beauty of this thing, your body adapts very quickly to new circumstances, new situations. Your mind adapts the more freedom you give your mind, the more chance there is of your mind developing new things to do.
Right I’m bored here today; I don’t know what to do. Maybe the first day you can’t think of anything to do. Maybe the second you can’t. Maybe the second week, you’ll still there, sitting there, thinking I’m bored. But eventually your mind will come up with stuff to do. Because simply that we’re human doings, as Wayne used to say, instead of human beings. We’re not meant to be here to be, we’re meant to be here to do, you know.
I know it’s sort of a sickly quote, but it’s true you know. We’re action orientated and don’t ever think that you’re depriving yourself of anything, you know by quitting drinking alcohol. You’re not depriving yourself at all. People who are drinking are depriving themselves.
They’re the ones that are depriving themselves of life. Of opportunity, of health. Of relationships, apart from people who drink, you know. Fellow drug users, is the only thing that, that, people like you can hang around with. Because they’re the only people that understand you’re type of drinking you know. Deprivation.
The amount of times, I’ve felt so deprived, you know, by stopping drinking alcohol and now I understand, it wasn’t anything to do with the alcohol, drinking the alcohol, it was, that was the problem was, you know, drinking alcohol was depriving me, getting the short term, benefits or the short term buzz.
There was no benefit in that, just a feeling you know. Like a childish thing, I want it now. I want to be feeling good now. Getting that buzz, just feeling that buzz, has just deprived me of so much in my life, so, that’s another thing. So, think about the amount of people that are in hospital now. I think one Doctor said it was in the ninety, ninety per cent or something like that, I can’t remember, but it’s very high, the amount of people who are in Hospital, because of what they’ve done to themselves. Wow! You know.
Through alcohol, through smoking, through lack of exercise, through what they’re putting into their bodies, you know nutrition. It all contributes to bad health and worsening health the older you get and the obvious hospital stays, you know one of these days you’re not going to come out of hospital because of that kind of stuff. I want to go in my bed, because of old age, not because of something I’ve done to myself of long-term life suicide, suicide by mouth – nasty!
It all boils down to the old saying that old habits die hard and it’s true. It takes hard work to kill old habits, right the older the habit, the more work you’ve got to put into over the long-term, to sort of kill it, to get rid it.
But it’s well worth it and if you’re not willing to put in the hard work, then, there’s nothing more I can say to you. There’s nothing more I can do, nothing more anyone can do for you, because you are the one that has to be put in the hard work. Nobody is going to do it for you. You can hire somebody to do the press ups for you, but that’s not going to make you fit.
So, look that’s it for today, remember, just if you hear other people talking to you and saying to you, you know like, what are you doing, you know? This is not good for you.
You know what’s good for you right. You know that quitting drink is good for you. You know putting good fuel into your body is good for you. Getting out and getting into the fresh air and breathing, getting your heart rate up, whatever that means, you know.
Exercise is a stupid word, but you know, moving, getting out and moving, getting your blood flowing you know, getting your lymph flowing. It’s all things that you can do for yourself.
If you don’t do that, then, if you listen to other people, then you’ve got nobody else to blame but yourself. Don’t listen to it. It’s all bullshit. It’s people trying to force their own issues onto you, try to say to you – “oh you shouldn’t do this”, because they don’t want anyone else to be good in their lives, when somebody else can’t, you know. I can’t think.
“Only surround yourself with people who will lift you higher”
Until next time…
Keep the Alcohol out of Your Mouth,
Keep the Bullshit out of your Head
Onwards and Upwards!