Today, I want to talk about quitting alcohol by making the best of how things work out on their own.
None of us have got a crystal ball.
None of us really can see what’s going to happen around the corner.
We can do a lot for ourselves to lessen the unfamiliarity with the future by preparing ourselves, but at the end of the day, it’s just not possible to know in what way little shifts in what we do would alter events.
There’s an old saying
‘’a butterfly flaps its wings in Mexico, and there’s a hurricane in Taiwan’’
or whatever it is.
But you understand, cause and effect.
Whatever you do today, in this moment might alter something down the road, tomorrow or the next day.
You never know what’s going to happen.
There’s a quotation here from a guy called John Wooden, an American basketball coach, one of the best basketball coaches in American basketball.
He was 3 or 4 months shy of his 100th birthday when he died.
He said ‘’things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out’’.
He was known as the wizard of Westbrook.
He also had another quote which is ‘’do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do’’
So, really, you can’t know what’s going to happen around the corner.
There’s no way of you having a crystal ball.
So, it’s got to be better than what’s happening now.
The reason why you’re watching this video is because you want to stop drinking alcohol, and the reason you want to stop is because, either the pleasure in your life is diminishing and you finally realise that alcohol is not giving you that pleasure anymore, or it’s sapping away from the pleasure that you could be having, or you’re getting pain in your life.
You’re feeling pain in some area whether it’s your health or your relationships or your job.
So, taking that alcohol out of the equation, putting up with the discomfort that is going to be involved with that decision and with those actions.
You can do only so much preparation work.
You can only make a guesstimate of what is going to happen in future.
Most of us can barely plan past a few days.
They say 5 years is about the maximum that we should be looking to plan realistically.
Over 5 years, you can have some sort of ideas of what you want to be doing.
Planning after that is next to useless.
But, what I’m saying is that once you get past the starting line and start on this new journey, then it’s going to be really unexpected because you don’t know what’s going to happen from day to day.
You go to work, you do this, you’re going to get up and go to bed roughly the same time, you’re going to do some things that are similar to what you’re doing now, your whole life is not going to change.
But there are going to be times when things are going to change.
Anytime that you’re used to drinking alcohol, that’s taken out of the equation so those times are going to be all new.
As I said in the previous video, most of us have got no experience of actually being without alcohol in our lives.
These are all going to be new experiences.
All you can do at the end of the day is to make the best out of those situations.
One of the ways of doing that is, whenever you’re not sure of what to do, don’t blindly go in unless you’ve got it in your plan, as in if this happens, you know you’ll do that.
If you’ve got those kinds of implementation intentions ready…unless you have that in these circumstances, then the best course of action is to sit down, take some time and think out what your response is going to be.
If in doubt, just say no.
Say no, I’m not doing that.
The default answer to anyone offering you a drink should be always no.
Regardless of anything else, the more preparation that you can do before you actually quit, the better.
The preparation process is normally associated with doing something before we do something else.
So, you prepare, then you do.
Quitting drinking is such a final thing.
You stop drinking and you’ve essentially reached that one goal.
So your preparation process should be about reaching something else in the future.
Looking forward to something, building something in your life that is good, that you want, whether that’s a way of life or something that you want to do for life.
All your preparation work should be aimed towards that.
And in that case then your preparation should be ongoing.
Your preparation for quitting drinking stops the moment you step across that starting line and actually quit drinking.
And, as part of that preparation, you should be building your goals, constructing your goals, and you work towards that.
At the end of the day, when it all boils down to it, there’s only so much preparation you can do.
At one stage or the other, you have to stop preparing and actually start doing.
It’s the only way you’re going to stop drinking, it’s the only way you’re going to reach your goals or anything like that.
You have to bite the bullet.
In an ideal world, everything will go your way, everything will go as you want it to go, but we’re not living in an ideal world, so some shit is going to go wrong.
In those times when some stuff goes wrong, it’s sometimes the best option to just try and find the best way of looking at the situation, the best way of dealing with it in that moment.
And it might not be the best way of doing it.
You could go two weeks down the road and you think ‘’what did I fucking do that for? I should have done this instead’’.
Hindsight is 20/20.
In that moment you have to sit down think about it, take yourself off for a couple minutes, clear your head, think about what is the best solution at that moment that you can think of.
And that’s the key here.
The best solution in that moment that you can think of.
And just do that.
So long as it doesn’t involve drinking or putting alcohol in your mouth – that’s never going to be a good solution, that’s the worst solution.
So, think about the best way you can deal with this problem in that moment and do that.
That’s it for today.
If you have any questions at all, leave them below in the comment section.
Come on over to the website and you’ll find the audio and the transcript of this.
Till next time, have a great day, keep the alcohol out of your system, stay safe and just spend a little bit of time to think about the things that you need to do.
If you’re unsure about what to do, don’t rush into it with all guns blazing.
Just take your time, take a few minutes to mull things over and then take the best option that you have in that moment and do it.
I think if you do that, in general, once it all averages out, you’ll be making the right decisions and you’ll keep heading in the right direction.
When people don’t do this and they just make a spur of the moment decision without thinking about it… don’t do that.
I know it’s an easy thing to think about doing, but do your best to avoid that.
If you can do that, then I think in general, you’re always going to come out on top.
You’re going to come out in the best position ever.
If you think about something that you could have done later on, well, fuck it, don’t beat yourself up about it.
EVERY ACCOMPLISHMENT BEGINS WITH THE DECISION TO TRY
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
Nice one Kev….like the quotes from the last two posts.
and no cobwebs today…well done.
I am frank oconnell a fan of Kevin Ohara..
onwards and upwards
Hi love the advice on all the blogs. Im coping with a lot of difficult choices at present .Kevin helps me every day . Im 2 years A/F.
Thanks Dierdre…Well done on your 2 years….How do you feel?