One of the biggest behaviour changes in your life is to not try and make too many changes at once.
Hold yourself back from trying to do too many things at once, because you’ll avoid burnouts that way and get a lot more done.
Today, I want to talk about how many behaviours should you try to change at once.
The basic thing is that if you try and make too many changes at the one time, you’ll burnout.
You will be doing too much, putting too much effort in, your willpower won’t stand up to it and you’ll gradually let things slide bit by bit.
It just creates an air of negativity about the whole situation.
You let one thing go and think ‘I couldn’t really do that’, but deep inside, you’ve got a defeat which could’ve been avoided.
That defeat can bring with it negative aspects.
So you can start thinking about your self-control.
It can dent our self-confidence a little bit.
I definitely think that it depends what you’re trying to bring into your life.
You can try to make changes form a couple of different areas of your life at the same time but not from one area.
For instance, don’t try to quit drinking and smoking at the same time.
You’re much better off doing these things consecutively.
Do one first and get through it.
One you’re done with that, do a second one.
Depending on which way you want to look at this, you can try and do the toughest one first or you can take the one that you consider to be the easiest fires.
That builds your confidence to tackle the tougher changes.
These are things you learn as you go along.
The more you do these things, the more you will learn about yourself and your capabilities and limitations.
When I used to go into a lot of things and I used to go ‘yeah, I’ll go to the gym every day and train for a marathon running. I want to learn a new language’ and I’d write this big list out on the 1st of January, a big list of things.
I’d go into it full of enthusiasm for the first few days, and gradually as I realised that I had limitations on time, money, will power and all these things, these limitations would kick in.
Limitations I hadn’t thought about in the beginning.
They’d kick in and eventually, these things would drop off and I wouldn’t even achieve one thing on the list.
Whereas if you stick to one thing, you say ‘this is what I’m going to do for 30 days. I’m going to not drink, or quit smoking, or I’m going to eat good food’ or whatever it is.
Choose one thing and do it for 30 days.
You can choose something from a different area of life. You can choose something from your health like quitting drinking.
You can also try and be a better father or a better husband or wife, and think about things from that perspective.
Those are 2 separate areas of your life.
I believe you can do those things. I don’t think you need to do one or the other. But definitely don’t try and do two things within the same area of your life at once because you’ll burnout really quickly.
A good trick when trying to develop a new habit is to try not to give it 100 percent at the beginning.
So, let’s say you want to start walking, don’t go out and say ‘I’m going to do 10km in the first day’
Say your goal is to start out doing 5km, instead of doing 5km, say you’re going to do 3km and stop yourself at the point where you want to push yourself forward.
Stop yourself there.
So you feel like you want to do it but you’re holding yourself back.
It builds the enthusiasm for the next time.
You still have something left that you could’ve put yourself out there to do but you didn’t.
When you go out the next time, you have more enthusiasm.
Allow yourself to do maybe 3 1/2 km, and eventually you will get to that 5km goal and you’ll have something left in the tank.
So the next time you go out you might want to do a bit more.
You can build yourself up by that.
Always leave something in the tank.
Don’t give it 100% on your first try.
If you give 100% and feel very tired, it can stop you from going out the next day if your feet are sore, if your legs are sore.
If you get a negative feeling from it, the next time you can bring the negativity into the next session.
That’s not a good thing.
You always try and build positivity and momentum and bring them forward with you wherever you go.
That’s it for today.
The whole point of this: Don’t do too much.
Just concentrate and do one thing at a time.
Get that thing done for 30 days, build up that pattern in your life.
The achievements you make give you a bit more willpower, a bit more stamina, a bit more self-confidence.
STOP. BREATHE. RELAX.
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
Thanks Kevin, I am getting far more comfortable with not drinking, I am trying to get other aspects of my life back on track now.
For weeks now my focus has been almost on nothing matters other than don’t drink, this progressed onto try and reverse some of the damage alcohol has done me or at least give myself the best chance I can of halting it.
I am now trying to get my work life back on track, this does impinge on my will power for healthy living. Getting this balance right is my next opportunity. An opportunity than can feel very hard at times. But I know am making progress. Burn out is my big fear.
I don’t have right to let the me down who got me this far.
So I will watch my pace.
Great advice as usual, Thanks.