Today I wanted to talk about a concept called, fixing the Windows. I think this theory was born in the United States. Basically, it involves, policing and trying to keep crime as low as possible.
They discovered that if they allowed broken windows to remain in a Neighbourhood, it gave out the message that it was okay to have broken Windows. So, people would break a few more windows, and when those additional Windows were broken, people thought it was okay to stretch the law a bit further and people would start breaking into places and crime, in general, would escalate from there. If they had fixed the broken windows, it would have stopped it in its tracks.
It’s the same type of mentality as group gang graffiti. I’m not sure about the aspect of the big murals that you can find, which are like works of Art and created by people who put a lot of work into them. But, it’s definitely the same mentality as gang graffiti where property is defaced and that kind of stuff.
The reason why I’m telling you this is because you can think along the same lines with your drinking thinking. Where you allow thoughts to pop into you head and then you entertain and sort of believe them. Such as ‘I’ve been off the alcohol now for three months, I could go back onto it, because I’m fully in control now.’ Then you put it off a little bit, and then you start thinking about it again, but a little deeper this time and then you push it a bit further out of your mind, and you continuing this process until eventually you start believing in your own bullshit and you start to believe that you can handle the drink.
Maybe when you go back to it, you actually handle the drink, perhaps for the first two weeks, because you are trying to prove it to yourself. You are thinking – ‘Yeah, look at this, I can go out and only drink two Pints of Beer no problem. Good on you.’ And you pat yourself on the back and you think everything’s alright.
And you do that for a few days, maybe you don’t even drink for a few days, which you think gives you further proof that you can control it and you go on and on until eventually you go back to doing the same thing that you were doing before, because you haven’t changed the outside lifestyle.
You’re still trying to eek out enjoyment in the same ways that you were before, like Going to the pub;buying Beer, and enjoying that Beer at home; buying wine and enjoying that wine at home and seeking pleasure in that form of – call it entertainment – taking pleasure in the toxin and the intoxification, and it doesn’t work.
So, you have to cut those thoughts short as soon as you get them and fix those broken windows. It’s the same thing with trying to avoid places, environments, and people. Those things in your life that you know are going to trigger alcohol thoughts and that you associate with alcohol thoughts. I’m not saying you have to avoid them forever, but until you reframe those things and think about them in a different way. So, the Pub no longer means enjoyment because it’s where you drink, it means enjoyment for something else.
For me going to Pub now means enjoying myself watching a football match – or not enjoying myself depending on how badly they’re playing. The pub no longer means enjoyment because it’s where I drink, it means enjoyment because it’s where I watch football matches. The restaurant, is not about drinking any more and it was for drinking before. I was an excuse to go out and get pissed. Food was an added bonus, but it was always to get pissed first and foremost. But, I don’t do that anymore, I’ve reframed it, so I can go back to Restaurants now. I’m going back to Ireland to see my best buddy who was just a real drinker and we had some great times drinking, from what I can remember. I don’t know how that’s going to go, but for me it’s just a different way of looking at it now. It’s going to be a different relationship. I don’t drink, I’m not going to drink, no matter what happens.
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Keep the Alcohol out of your Mouth
Onwards and Upwards!