I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcoholmastery.com.
Today I wanted to talk about trying to find a positive in the days or months after you quit drinking. Looking for positives instead of looking for negatives. It’s all very easy to look for and pick out the negatives, especially in those first few days when you are going through the hangover. You know there’s an easy solution to this, you just go back to what you used to doing, to go back and pick up where you left off, to get a six pack, a couple of cans, whatever it is that you want, and all your troubles will go away.
But that’s just bullshit. For a start, your troubles aren’t going to go away, you’ll have the same stuff happening tomorrow, the next day, the same thing next week or next month. The only differences that those things that happened to you in the next week or next month are going to be more difficult. You’ll find things a lot more difficult to handle. Not just the habit is taking one step away from where you are now, but also because you gave in, and once you give in once, it becomes a lot easier to give in second time, to give in third time. It becomes a habit of giving in. And that’s dangerous. That’s something that’s likely to really fuck you up in the long-term. Not only have you got the fact that you have given in, you’ve also got the issue of thinking about why you gave in, thinking about yourself and your abilities, doubting yourself and your abilities. This is something that will always give you problems, if you don’t quit.
Also be thinking about why you gave in, what happened to make you giving, what was the issue…
[Looking into the trees] this is what I used to do for a job… I’m walking up around the forestry year, I don’t know if you can see in there… I used to cut these inspection lines into the trees… This just brings me right back… Five years as if it was yesterday… I suppose in certain aspects… This is where I spent my life, my working life, in these forests. My brother once said to me, “this is your office”… [Laughs] Very strange!
Going back to what I was saying, when you don’t give in, when you look for the positive things, I mean there are going to be days when you feel like shit, you feel like there’s nowhere left to go, that you may be failing in a lot of things that you’re doing. There will be other days when you just feel good.
I think that’s it for today. Just try and keep positive. If you’re getting cravings, think on the positive side of it. Think about this as the old habit trying to claw its way back into your life. If you find that there are people who are asking you to take a drink, use it as an excuse to practice saying “no”. You are going to have to say no a lot of times in your life once you stop drinking alcohol. You have to, there is no choice about it. What you can do it, it’s not that difficult. When you look at it like you have to say no for the rest of your life, it’s a big ask. When you look at it from the perspective of taking things day by day by day, taking things situation by situation by situation, then it’s a lot easier to handle.
It’s the same way that you have to look at your cravings, the same way you have to look at anything
in your life, if you want one advance in any way, shape, or form, you have to push yourself forwards step-by-step by step.
Anyway, I’m rambling, so I’m going to quit here. Until next time, I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcoholmastery.com, take care of yourself, keep the alcohol out of your mouth, onwards and upwards… Bye Now
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in everyday”
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!