Does drinking make you care less for your families welfare is the eighth question of 20 in the Johns Hopkins series of videos to see if you are an alcoholic…
This is a very deep subject and one that I’m not going to attempt to cover in any depth here! It’s not a question that I’m ready to delve into myself, so I’m going to make this one short!
I think most people care about their families, even the ones who don’t seem care. It’s a touchy subject, but it’s one that any drinker has to face!
From My Experience
Your family’s welfare is suffering if (among other things):
- You’re neglecting family responsibilities because of your drinking.
- You’re drinking in front of your kids (I mean proper drinking, not a glass of wine at the dinner table… drinking a glass of wine, going back for another, and another, finishing the bottle, opening another!)
- Your kids see you when you’re drunk.
- Your kids are lying to others to protect you.
- The emotional levels in the home are constantly shifting because of alcohol.
- There is a lack of basic family stability because of your drinking.
- Your kids sometimes act like grown-ups when you drink?
One of the Leading Causes of a Dysfunctional Family
Alcoholism is a disease of the family. They will often hide the alcoholic in order to preserve family dignity
Modern therapists are seeing that it is as important to treat the families of the addict as the addict themselves. Many children of addicts grow up with a distorted view of the world and their role in it. They have learned a twisted view of the world from the alcoholic parent (switch to drug addict, gambler, or any other form of addiction). If they don’t treat the family members, the problems with drink will be passed down through the generations.
I regret ever drinking in front of my kid. I wish I could take back all the times he’s seen me drunk, all the times he’s seen me drinking.
All I can do is never to drink again, show him by my actions that there is another way to live life. One that doesn’t involve drinking!
This was the eighth post in the series of articles on the Johns Hopkins 20 questions which was designed for you to self-test and discover if you might have an alcohol problem. If you answer yes to this question and yes to some of the others in the test, you need to take a look at your drinking habits. You can find the master article here: Johns Hopkins 20
Leave a message below if I can offer any help at all in your fight with alcohol.
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards…