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Do You Turn To Lower Companions and an Inferior Environment When Drinking?

by | Johns Hopkins 20 Questions | 4 comments

(0.20) The language
(0.45) Why do people go to bars?
(1.27) Low companions and dodgy environments
(2.18) Use your judgement

Do You Turn To Lower Companions and an Inferior Environment When Drinking is the seventh of 20 questions in the Johns Hopkins are you an alcoholic series…

Turning to lower companions and an inferior Environment when drinking!!!! The language of this one sounds like it could have been spoken in Churchillian accents at some London gentleman’s club in the 19th century. It’s very haughty and down the nose stuff. But when I started thinking about it, I felt the uncomfortable twang of a few familiar chords being struck!

Why do people turn to lower companions and an inferior environment when drinking?

(Or why do drinkers go to places where alcohol is consumed in large quantities and where they can drink with like-minded drinkers!)



I would say that the main reason for seeking out like-minded drinkers is for companionship. If you’re sober and you’re trying to have a conversation with a person who is slowly getting drunk it can be very tedious, boring, and uncomfortable. A bloke with a few pints on him will chew the ear off anyone who happens along, drinker or non-drinker. But better to converse with a drinker…the conversation seems to flow better!

Birds of a feather flock together!


Carl Jung said “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Everyone needs understanding. Most of the time it’s the understanding that we share the problems of life…including alcoholism. You understand in others what you see in yourself and you can feel comfortable.
The discussion at a bar top will give any other conversation in the world a run for its money. For the most part, these are not stupid people. The chat topic might range from the quality of the beer on tap at this bar or the one down the street, or just ‘putting the world to rights’… Does it make any difference? Who ever said conversation had to have anything to do with communication? A dialogue to end the scruffiness of the day!

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
Carl Jung


When you’re with people who’re in the same mind-set as you, you’re giving each other tacit approval. You’re with friends. You share a common bond. It is unfortunate in life that those who need approval the most don’t get enough of it while those who need it the least always seem to get the lions share…
Bars also allow drinkers to hide from disapproval. For most problem drinkers, it’s the disapproval of others that often sets them down upon the road to sobriety.

My Low Companions and Dodgy Environments

I used to love the atmosphere of my local. I’d walk in after a hard day’s work and be greeted by a smiling bargirl holding an empty pint glass, her hand hovering over the Guinness pump, “Hey Kev, Pint?”

A greeting, a nod, and I’d take my place at the bar while I waited for the dark liquid to draw!

There were about six or seven of us who’d meet up after work for a couple of hours. We all sat at the end of the bar, in our own little corner, each arriving to the same friendly greeting, the same round of “how’s it going?” or “what’s the story?”. It was like a real life ‘cheers’.

The bar was somewhere where we all found companionship, understanding, approval, space, laughter, and friendship.

When I think about it now, I can only smile. If it wasn’t for the drink it would have been great. I’m glad it’s gone; it was a real pull for me.

I had to move away from it all to stand any chance of kicking the habit. I quit drinking for eleven months and it was torture to go there, and torture to stay away.

I wonder what it would have been like if we bunch had met up under different circumstances, in a different place, without alcohol?

Judge for Yourself

I know this piece may sound like an ode to drinking… it’s not! When I started to think about this question, I thought about the bars I used to frequent the most, and the people I knew back then, and I got a little offended that they might be labelled as lower companions drinking in an inferior environment.

To me, lower companions and inferior environments would be drinking with the winos down by the river!

I’m not sure where Dr Seliger was going when he wrote this one, but it did hit a nerve…
Maybe that was the point…

You can use your own judgement as to the places you frequent and the people you hang out with…

This was the seventh post in the series of articles on the Johns Hopkins 20 questions which was designed for you to self-test and discover if you might have an alcohol problem. If you answer yes to this question and yes to some of the others in the test, you need to take a look at your drinking habits. You can find the master article by clicking here

Leave a message below if I can offer any help at all in your fight with alcohol.

Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards…

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  1. Steven

    I have to say that I do see some merit to this question. I am probably a functioning alcoholic. No problems thus far; but I can hear the music. I do turn to lower companions by talking on the telephone at night while drinking. It’s an excuse to drink and it makes me feel good to socialize with friends who are lonely and also drinking. We support each other’s drinking as if it’s a joke others just don’t understand. It helps with loneliness; however, I can honestly say that I find myself engaged in conversations that don’t inspire my intellect. I find myself passively tolerating others while they talk about things that don;t interest me in the least. All the while we drink and smoke cigarettes and make each other feel less lonely. Would I enjoy talking to these people while sober? No. Yet we talk for endless hours on the phone nonetheless.

    Not only would I say that this question has merit; it’s probably one of the only of the 20 which I cannot find a plausible way to deny.

    • Kevin O'Hara

      Thanks for your comment Steven. I never felt as lonely as when I was drinking. I had companionship that I sought out in bars, I still maintain contact with one person from back then, even though I don’t live in the same country or even drink alcohol any more. I find that most people have surprising depths but alcohol tends to be the lowest common denominator that strikes us all stupid. For me, the banal conversations made the most sense. After all, how could I pretend to be intelligent when I was systematically poisoning myself.

  2. Shannon L. freng

    This literature was originally designed for an upper middle class audience. As with almost everything, AA has not altered any of it. It is paradoxical that when one goes to most AA meetings, now, they’re mostly attended by the lower class. So you’d have the lower class reading that they are anathema. Too funny. A testament to an organization that is so pathetic, they can’t even realize this contradiction. It is a cult.

    • Shannon L. Freng

      This question is worded the way it is, because AA was originally designed for upper middle class WASP males. Given that, it therefore seems quite paradoxically antithetical too AA’s interest, to continue using it. What I mean is if turning to a lower class milieu is an indication one might have a drinking problem (which I’d agree with), why would you want to seek fellowship at some meeting that’s almost entirely comprised of naught but lumpenproletariat types?


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