“The body achieves what the mind believes!”
Do you think you’re a REAL alcoholic or just a problem drinker? Do you think AA is a solution to your problems? Do you believe you can or can’t control your actions by using your thoughts?
I’m Kevin O’Hara for Alcohol Mastery.
Today, I wanted to make a video about a comment I got on the Facebook page in response to one of my videos.
“Good ( perhaps ) for the Problem drinker
But NOT SO for the REAL Alcoholic . Mind over matter is of no use. We would have quit long ago if thinking yourself sober works.
AA works for countless x-problem drinkers & Real alcoholics.
I need not look further .
If it’s not broke … Don’t fix it”
There’s a basic truth in life, mind first, matter next, if you can believe you can achieve.
So many of the greatest thinkers our world has seen have reiterated this truth again and again.
Nikos Kazantzakis said “In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can.” Mind over matter!
Norman Vincent Peale, who wrote one of the first books on positive thinking said
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”
Mind over matter!
William James, the father of American psychology said,
“Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.”
Mind first, matter second!
US President Theodore Roosevelt said,
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
Mind over matter!
“Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.”
Mind affecting matter!
“The best way to predict your future is to create it” …
He also said,
“Determine that the thing can and shall be done and we shall find the way.”
Mind controlling matter!
“If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.”
Mind influencing matter!
What is this term REAL alcoholic that this guy is talking about? Is it a person who drinks every day, all day? Is it a person who only drinks spirits and needs to consume it all day, every day?
This all goes back to the belief that any alcohol drinking is normal. Some people love the tag alcoholic. They wear it as a badge of honor. They’d never admit it, but it’s true. They like playing the victim card, how their misery is much worse than yours, how their past story was filled with so much torment, and how you don’t know the meaning of suffering. I’ve heard this so many times in the comments to my videos, especially in YouTube. You’re not an alcoholic (Yes, I agree), you’re only a problem drinker, this is the general gist of the conversation. Then they go on to spout horror stories about how much they drank, what they did when they were drunk, how badly they treated other people and themselves. And they make sure that everyone knows that they were REAL alcoholics. And when you’re a REAL alcoholic, as this guy points out, mind over matter is of no use. He also says, we would have quit long ago if thinking yourself sober works.
I’m sorry to tell you this, but…
…thinking yourself sober is the only thing that works.
How else are you going to do this? How else are you going to quit drinking? How else are you going to prevent yourself from picking up another glass of alcohol?There is no magic wand that you can wave over yourself which will instantly make the alcohol disappear from your life. There is no pill that will take away the craving for booze. There might be pills that create blocks to your drinking, but at what cost? Once you stop using the pills, you go straight back to the cravings. The side effects alone are not worth it. What about the long term damage? I’ll do a video on my opinion about these in the future.
So the only thing that really works is mind over matter.
The only way you can stop drinking is to think yourself sober.
Even if you go to AA for the rest of your life, the only way to prevent yourself from taking another drink is to not do it. The only way of not doing it is to think about what you’re doing first. Before you take any action or don’t take any action, you have to think first. The thought comes first and then the action, that’s the way it works. No matter the way you stop, you first have to think you want to stop, then you have to plan how you’re going to stop, then you have to think your way through the plan, and put it into practice. This all takes thought first and action second.
MIND OVER MATTER!
The only reason we haven’t quit long ago is because we didn’t see anything wrong with what we were doing. This is what millions and millions of people are doing every day around the world, hiding from the truth about what they’re doing to themselves or being duped by other people who have a vested interest in them drinking and drinking and drinking. That’s the world we live in.
You say that AA works for countless x-problem drinkers & Real alcoholics. That all depends on your perception of working. There’s no statistical data that says it works. If you mean it gives people a tool to not put any more alcohol in their mouths, then yes, for some people I’d say it does work. But to me, it seems like many people are replacing one addiction with another, attending meetings. Instead of relying on themselves to not put any more alcohol into their bodies, they rely on an outside source –
the group, the sponsor, the higher power.
I’ve seen people with AA addictions for life. So when you say, if it’s not broke, don’t fix it, again it depends on your perspective. Now, it’s a much healthier addiction, physically speaking than drinking alcohol, I’ll give it that. But I’m not sure how healthy it is mentally to be continually surrounding yourself with horror stories, broken people, and people keeping referring back to the alcohol, referring to themselves as alcoholics. I left alcohol behind me the moment I stopped. It took a while to deal with my alcohol lifestyle, which is the real problem by the way, but once I had changed how I thought about alcohol, I could change how I lived my life. There’s that mind over matter again by the way.
I haven’t drank in over 3 years after drinking almost every day for 30 years. It wasn’t easy to get away from the mentality, the lifestyle, and the feeling that I was a bit odd for wanting to quit such a lovely habit of consuming rotten grape juice every night, but my life is a hundred times better without any form of alcohol in my life, physical or mental.
“Rule your mind or it will rule you” Buddha
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!