Believing Passionately About Something (Transcript)
How are you doing?
My name is Kevin O’Hara and today I want to talk about believing passionately in something.
I want to start off with a quote from a guy called Nikos Kazantzakis. He is the person responsible for the book and the film Zorba the Greek. The film starred the great Anthony Quinn. The quote is:
“To believe passionately in something that does not yet exist, we create it. The non-existent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired.”
It’s just a great quote for anyone who is looking for something to do after they’ve quit, looking for that passion in their lives.
Where’s Your Passion
If you take your alcohol journey as an example being in the middle of the Sahara desert, and all you see around you is sand, sand dunes, flat sand, blowing sand and regardless of what you’re doing, you don’t know which direction you can go in. You’re hundreds and hundreds of miles from nowhere, but you haven’t got a clue where you’re going. For me, that’s what quitting alcohol is without a direction, without a passion, without something to aim towards. That’s exactly what it’s like to me.
Specific, Tangible, Concrete, and Measurable
The goal that you choose has got to be specific, it’s got to be concrete, it’s got to be measurable so you know how far forward you’re getting to it. It has to be visible inside your head, it’s got to be full of emotion and that’s the key element.
Alcohol: The Tool
Drinking is never about alcohol. Alcohol is just the means to an end, it’s a tool to get you where you want to go. It’s all about emotions. For me, the reasons why I drank were to hide away from guilty feelings, to have something, a big emotional wall to hide behind. The reasons were to get myself some confidence when I was growing up, to get myself some self-esteem. You can dig and dig down into these things and you’ll come up with your own solutions. It comes down to fear, it comes down to the real basic raw emotions. We’ve all got the emotional needs that we have to get satisfied before anything else happens.
Digging Out Your Emotional Needs!
Everything that we do in life has got an underlying emotion attached to it. If you think about going out and buying a car, or buying a stereo, the best car salesmen know that the way to get you to part with your money and to sign on the dotted line is not to tell you about all the features of the car, how fast it can go, the size of the engine, but to paint a picture with passion behind it, telling you exactly what you can get the comfort of. Sliding down the road at 60 miles an hour and listening to your stereo – that’s one of the big reasons why salesmen would take you out for a test drive is because he wants to get you emotionally involved with the vehicle. Once you’ve driven it, you’re more than likely going to buy it. It’s the same as selling a car, I recently sold a car and it was very difficult because there are a lot of emotions tied up with this big chunk of metal. But that’s just the way it works.
First The Thought, Then The Being
When you’re thinking about this thing that you want to do in the future, just try and put as much passion in it as you can, put as much visual elements into as you can, as much sounds if you can do that. Put sounds into it, put feelings into, put people that you know into it – make a big picture. It’s what people do. Anything that you see around you, any tangible good or service or anything that you see around you was once just a thought in somebody’s head. And that’s all it takes is for somebody to build on that vision inside their head before they can take out the first tool to make it, or sign the first contract to get it made.. It has to be inside their head, it has to develop.
This type of visualization works for everything, regardless of what you want to do. If you want to get a new job, if you want to study for a new career, if you want to build a business, if you want to build a product. Whatever you want to do. But it also works for you yourself, and building the new you.
Visualise the New You!
And that’s basically what you have to do. You have to go from being this person who is going through this habit – this really bad habit of alcohol abuse and drinking all the time and solving all your problems through alcohol, to not doing that anymore. You have to see yourself in that position. You have to picture yourself. Picture yourself 25 pounds, 30 pounds lighter. Picture yourself buying new clothes and talking to people about your plans and your dreams and your ambitions. All positive stuff.
You really have to believe this. You’ve really got to get into it and put your feelings into it. Try and feel what it’s like to be that person. See yourself from all angles. Don’t look out of your own eyes…actually look down and see yourself in this position, six months down the road. If you don’t believe it’s possible just go back and look at the first video that I did. I looked at it recently and I was completely shocked by the change. Look at this video and then go back and look at the number 1 video I did, “Stop Drinking Alcohol Week 1”. It was a Thursday, tally number no 1. You’d be shocked at the change.
You Think, Therefore You Are
The reason why this is so important is because it works the opposite way around as well. If you believe that you cannot quit alcohol if you say it to yourself and if you feel it…If you see yourself as drinking, then that’s what you are: a drinker. Unfortunately, that’s just the way it works. You can’t become this person while you’re thinking you are a different person. You’ve got to become – in your mind – first the person who you want to be.
Hell Can Freeze Over
Really if there was one thing that I would say and repeat again and again is this one of visualization. You have to do it in your head, you have to believe that you can do it. You have to see yourself doing it. The more you can get that concrete, specific and tangible image in your head, the more you can feel it and you can hear yourself talking in the new words of the non-drinker, of the person who is pushing forward, the easier it’s gonna be for you to quit. You’ll never look backwards. When I look at that video now – the first video, I say to myself, “No way in HELL I’m ever going back there.”
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