I love this quote from Charles Kettering… “Believe and act as if it were impossible”…
I think we sometimes have to act first before we believe… Especially when we are entering time in our lives which is so full of trepidation and the unknown factor…
I didn’t know what to expect from my new journey. It’s scary, yet it’s full of possibilities.
It takes a lot somebody to step across that line, to give up so much that has become a part of who they are, and to go boldly into the new life…
Hope you enjoy the video.
Hello, I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcohol mastery dot com.
Today’s video begins with a quote: Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.
That comes from a guy called Charles Kettering.
He was the head of research at General Motors from the 1920s until way past the Second World War was over.
Throughout his lifetime, he got 18 different patents to his name, so he was a bit of an inventor, so to speak.
I just think it’s a great quote.
Can you actually believe as if it were impossible to fail?
Is it possible to actually believe that about something you’re about to do, especially something you’ve never done before, or something that fills you with a lot of trepidation?
I think that sometimes you have to act first and then believe second. So, you have to go out and you have to…what’s the old saying?
Try is before you buy it or fake it before you make it.
I think basically this is what we’re doing in the first few days and weeks of quitting drinking.
We’re putting on a brave face, smiling even though inside we might be worried and anxious about what’s going to happen.
Even though we might have built up a lot of momentum on the way, until we got to this day, and then finally comes the time to make the stop and you start.
Tonight’s the night, or today is the day.
It comes, and during the day you’re grand, because you don’t normally drink during the day, and then it gets to the evening.
Evening wine’s on you and you slowly start to get a bit more anxious you’re going to do in the evening, and you push through.
You do this step by step, bit by bit, day by day until you build up experience.
So it’s acting first and then believing second.
You move forward one step, you make a mistake, you pick yourself up from that mistake, you move forwards a bit more, you make another mistake.
This same routine is going to happen throughout your journey into alcohol mastery, into your new life as you start to build new habits and break down old ones from your old life.
This is going to be the same thing.
You’re going to sort of have to act out first, and believe second.
As you make mistakes, you sort of overcome those mistakes, then you get a bit more belief in yourself, a bit more self-confidence.
It’s one of those things where one mistake builds on another, not in a downward spiral but in a learning sequence.
If you can learn from what you’re doing, learn from your mistakes and figure out what went wrong and why you made the mistake in the first place, then it’s a lot easier to move forward again and do the next thing after that.
Because you’re building an experience and self-confidence, that not only are you capable of moving forward, but you’re capable of overcoming the mental obstacles of making a mistake.
I think that sometimes it’s what happens to people, is they get a mental block when they make a mistake and they start thinking ‘I just can’t do this’, and they give in.
Whereas, the person that pushes through regardless, the person who gets it into their heads that yes, they can make a mistake and yes they’re going to make a mistake, but also these mistakes are part of the pathway; and that each of these mistakes is going to bring them further and further away from the alcohol and closer to the thing they want to do in their life.
I’m living proof of that.
4 years after I’ve stopped drinking, I wouldn’t go back to that if you paid me.
I t would take an awful lot of money to get me to take a drink again.
I’d never go back to that lifestyle because no matter how much money you’re giving me, what’s life worth?
My life was just going down the shoot quickly.
My health was suffering; my mental health, my physical health, everything in my life was suffering.
And, from those first tentative movements into this life at the beginning, all those things that I tried to do and sort of didn’t pull them off, and all the different mistakes I made in the beginning, there were no mistakes I made that lead me back to the alcohol, that was a determining factor that I was determined to persist in, and there was nothing that was going to turn me back from that.
But moving forward and trying to figure out what the next step to do was, that’s where I made a lot of my mistakes.
But life is just made for mistakes.
If you look at a mistake like a learning process then you’re always going to do well for yourself.
I often think back to where would I be now if I hadn’t chosen the route that I had, if I hadn’t decided in my own head that I could do this on my own, if I hadn’t quit drinking for ten months previously, then I probably would have done that.
Maybe if I was in a different country, say if I was in America…
When I was stopped for drinking and driving, basically the judge said to me ‘You’ve lost your license for a year, you have to pay 600 euros and a fine, and you’re let off’.
That was it.
If I was in a different country, they could’ve said to me as part of the sentence, that I had to go to the AA.
What wold have happened if I’d gone to the AA then?
If they’d forced it into my head that I was never going to be free from alcohol, that alcohol was always going to be a stain in my life, always there just behind the surface waiting to strike?
What would happen if I’d go to those meetings, and every time I had to go there, I had to stand up and say ‘My name is Kevin O’Hara, I’m an alcoholic and it’s been x number of days since I last had a drink’, that brainwashing, where would I be now?
I don’t think I’d be anywhere near doing what I’m doing, and certainly alcohol mastery wouldn’t exist.
I’m not sure if I would’ve stayed off the drink, I don’t think so under that kind of thinking.
I’m one of those people that if I know something is sure in my life, then sometimes you have to give into the inevitable.
I’m not sure if I would’ve gone down that road.
I’d have just said, ‘well if its inevitable that I’m an alcoholic, then I might as well be an alcoholic and stay that way’.
I’m fortunate that I didn’t go down that route, and I wasn’t even in the country which forced me to go down that route.
Today, I’m out walking in the woods of Alicante, a long way from where I started four years ago.
I’ve severed all the ties I’ve ever had with alcohol, personally putting it into my system, or the behaviour of alcohol drinking.
I’m helping so many other people to see the same thing, just to see that it is possible to do this on your own that you don’t need to be an alcoholic for your lifestyle.
If somebody tells you that you’re an alcoholic, it’s detrimental to you and your habit and to you moving yourself forwards into your life.
So I think that the best part of this approach, believing and acting as if it were impossible to fail, is that even if you do fail or make am mistake and you go back on the booze, and you earn from the mistake and you stop again, this kind of thinking just energises you.
It gives you a positive spin on the world.
It forces you to think in positive ways, to think in a way that you know that if it’s impossible to fail, you’re going to push yourself to try anything, and you won’t leave any stone unturned.
I hope that made sense.
I’ll leave it there for now.
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Until next time, I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcohol mastery dot com.
MAKE FAILURE AN IMPOSSIBILITY AND WATCH WHAT HAPPENS.
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
hi, great video kevin,i go to a alcohol recovery program , some people go there and use the aa route and still call them self’s alcoholics, I tried that way and it did not work, I made mistakes, and learnt that I can stop drinking alcohol for my slef and my own beliefs,