How easy is it to get on the right track?
The first step is always going to be believing that you can do it, believing that you can be anything you want to be, achieve anything you want to achieve. Sometimes, we don’t even have this fundamental mindset. What then?
Maybe you just need to believe enough to take a step forwards. Fake it until you make it.
Once you’ve taken that first step, believe enough to take the second step. Fake it until you make it.
Once you have taken that second step, you might have built enough momentum to take you to the third step…
This is the way any change is constructed, one step after another. You never have to take more than one step at a time. None of us can. All you have to think about is having the belief and the willingness to take that next step.
Onwards and upwards!
How’re you doing? I’m Kevin O’Hara for alcohol mastery dot com.
Today I want to talk about getting yourself onto the right track, and being on the right track and staying on the right track.
It’s not enough just to be on the track, but you have to move yourself forwards if you want to make any progress in this thing.
Quitting drinking is not enough for most people.
I know that there’s many instances where just quitting drinking the alcohol, stop putting it in is just going to make a huge change, and it will make big differences in your life.
But at the end of the day, if you want to progress in life and fill in the gaps, then you’ve got a lot more work to do.
When I started on this journey, it had taken me over 30 years just to even realise that I have a problem with alcohol.
I realised that putting it into my body was a problem in the first place.
I’d stopped sort of five years before, and even then, with that whole thing, I didn’t really put two and two together and think that it was the booze in my life that was causing me problems.
I basically thought it was my actions when I was drinking the booze that was causing problems.
To put it short, I drank and drove, I got caught drinking and driving near where I used to live in Ennis.
I got banned off the road for a year.
I stopped drinking for almost a year.
It wasn’t enough to stop me from going back on the booze.
It took me another 5 years before I eventually knew and understood that it wasn’t the alcohol, it wasn’t the me, it wasn’t my behaviour while I was drinking the alcohol.
It was my behaviour of drinking the alcohol in the first place that was causing all the problems.
It took me a long time to come to that conclusion, to actually get on that track in the first place, to step foot on the track.
Beforehand I was on a completely different journey, trying to mitigate the effects of the alcohol on me.
I thought I was drinking too much and I knew I had to cut down or cut it out for a while.
It’s a typical thing to do in Ireland and England to go where you don’t have any alcohol for a couple of months, just to prove to yourself that you can do it.
So, as you’re getting to that place where you are stopping, where you’re even contemplating stopping, getting to that place where you’ve done a lot of thinking about it and come to the conclusion that alcohol is just causing you a lot of problems in your life, and that you don’t want it anymore.
It’s hard work to get there.
It takes a long time and takes a lot of stressful thinking to get to that stage, and the idea of more stress afterwards and more hard work once you’ve got off the alcohol, and once you’ve got over the initial three months, to get you to stop and really thinking about it on a daily basis.
That can put a lot of people off, but at the end of the day, that’s what life is about.
So if you want to progress in life, and you want to become the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, then it’s going to take you a lot of hard work to get there throughout your life.
I have no intentions of really stopping doing what I’m doing until I can’t do it anymore.
Hopefully that’s going to be a long time into the future.
But as you get on that journey and start down the track that you know you have to get on to, the journey starts to get easier.
You get more experienced at what you’re doing, you gain more intelligence about yourself and your life and what it’s like not to drink anymore.
You get more experienced about how to focus on other things, and slowly but surely, you construct a life for yourself which is engineered to your best interest, not just some foolhardy thought about what life should be like; ‘well I should b able to have a drink or a smoke, I should be able to eat all these fatty food and crisps and potato chips and cheese and everything without any problems’, and that’s just wishful thinking.
Life doesn’t work like that.
Your body doesn’t work like that.
Your brain certainly would like it to work like that, but that’s not happening.
As you move forwards and forwards, the tie of the alcohol becomes weaker and weaker, and it becomes a lot easier to move forwards, to make improvements, to seek out the next improvement that you want to make.
It becomes a lot easier to make progress than it does to go back.
I think I could never go back now.
Just the idea of going into that lifestyle again, sitting at a bar and drinking is just bullshit.
I don’t want to do it anymore.
It just becomes a lot easier to make improvements and make yourself better than to backslide and move yourself backwards.
That’s my take on things.
Just remember that it’s just not enough to get on the right track, you have to progress along that track if you want to make improvements in your life; if you want to be the person that you want to be.
Take care of yourself and keep the alcohol out of your body and system.
PAUSE. BREATHE. CRY IF YOU MUST. BUT KEEP GOING.
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!