Motivation is all about getting yourself to do the things you need to do because you want to do them. Sometimes motivation is hard to come by. It’s hard to be motivated to quit drinking when you’re feeling like shit, when everyone else around you seems to be “enjoying” themselves while drinking booze, or when you just cannot seem to fall asleep without your helping nightcap… Where do you find the motivation?
Today, I would like to give you five different ways that you find motivation to quit drinking, for or during your journey in quitting alcohol including the initial first few days.
I’ve always talked about distancing yourself as much as possible away from the alcohol, alcohol behaviour and rituals and to find something in the future, a goal or a target that you can aim towards, something that can pull you forward like a bit elastic band that is wrapped around you and is just tugging and tugging and pulling on you.
Find a Goal
One of the ways you can find motivation and keep it, is to find a goal that you are excited about. If you are not excited about the goal that you are aiming towards you are going to find it difficult to keep the motivation up and keep going, especially if it’s a very long term goal.
So whatever your goal is, it’s got to be something you really want to do, somethings that is going to give you a buzz and you can get up every day and you can hozzle to move yourself forwards towards the goal and to where you want to go.
You can have short term goals which are just as good as long as there is something that is driving you forward. One of my short time goals at the moment is to visit Vietnam, there’s just something about the country and region, Indonesia and all that kind of area that excites me and it’s somewhere I’ve never been.
I have never been outside of Europe and I’d love to visit the states but I think I’ll leave that for five years, I don’t want to go over there yet, unless something drags me across there.
So this is something that I want to do, maybe in the next year and it is something that is pushing me towards finding out more information, how I’m going to do the visit, how long we should stay there, what we’re going to see when we get there and I feel kind of buzzy about this.
It is something I can work towards, I’ve got a lot of long term goals as well but you need a selection of both, you need a couple of long term goals in your life from different categories, maybe one from a personal perspective something to do your family or life in general.
Stop bitching about things, externally and in your mind. Stop saying to yourself, “I can’t do this”, “I can’t do that”, this excuse, that excuse – it doesn’t do anything good for you, all it does is wastes your time, wastes your energy and saps your will power.
We all have obstacles in our lives, every one of us, and if you want to have success in anything in life, if you want to push yourself forward and keep motivated to do these things, you’ve got to figure out a way a positive way around these obstacles.
There’s always a way around the obstacle, over the obstacle or through the obstacle, but you have to stop being negative about it.
It will just bring you down and it can become a spiral, where you are just spiralling out of control. Where one negative thought leads to another and so on and so forth. Go the opposite route as soon as we feel yourself heading down that road, just say the opposite to yourself, bring in positivity.
I’m not saying look at the world through an unrealistic lens, you have to look at it realistically but there are thousands of positive and negative ways of looking at things, so always err on the side of positive if you can.
Three things to life your mood
As a momentary thing to do, something to lift your spirits, go for a brisk walk, something that will get your blood flowing a little bit, talk to someone that you know is positive and has got your back, or take a shower.
Any of these three things can do a lot to lift you up, change your mood and the way you think about things. I do all three.
I’m lucky enough to have a partner who will listen to me, my Son will often listen to me if I can get him isolated and away from people at the other end, otherwise he tends to have two or three different conversations and I don’t know who he is talking to, but my partner will listen to me so I am lucky enough there. I have a very supportive family around me, so I am lucky that way.
I am lucky in that I can get out walking whenever I want and as I say I tend to go out walking early in the morning and it sets me up for the day. I don’t use it as a mood changer, it is just a habitual thing that I do every morning to establish the base line of the day.
Showering is a really quick and easy way to change your mood, a nice warm shower, just stand underneath the hot water for a while and it can do wonders for you.
Think about your reasons for quitting drinking alcohol
Another thing to do is to think about before and after, think about the perspective of what was going on before, why you came to this decision and made the choice to quit drinking in the first place.
Take that, look at it, look at all the ramifications of it, look at where you where, what you were thinking, what the consequences of your drinking where and what was generally happening in your life that brought you to this stage.
And then take that by step, by step, by step forwards into your life and try and imagine what things are going to be like five or ten years’ time.
Spend a bit of time thinking about this and then think about the after, think about if you quit drinking now what is going to happen and what feelings are you going to go through.
Ignore the discomfort because that’s only fleeting, momentary and its descending, it starts up here and it gradually goes down in no space of time you won’t feel it at all.
So think about the positive side of this, where you are going to go and what things are going to change in your life, because you’ve stopped drinking. Think of what changes you can make now that you’ve got that drinking behaviour out of your life.
It’s a great exercise to bring you motivation. You can see, and only you can do this, you can see your life from your perspective, what is going to happen after you’ve quite drinking or a least fair idea of what’s going to happen.
It can give you a lift and reinforce that you are on the right path to where you want to go, that can be really motivating.
Focus on the Benefit
Focus on the benefits instead of the disadvantages. If you think about a good sales man, he will always sell you on the benefits of a product, he won’t sell you on the features or the acceleration of a car, he will sell you on the fact that you can get to a and b much quicker or on the smell and comfort of the leather. So you’ve got to sell the shit out of yourself, you’ve got to sell the shit out of what you want in life and the befits of these things.
Hope that gave you something, if you use any of these things, some are short term, others long term but it’s something you should be doing all the time, positive thinking is something that you should be doing all the time, in any area of your life, because it can be massively beneficial to you.
Taking before and after of any decision that you want to make, especially when it’s a decision that involves leaving something bad behind and heading in a more positive direction in your life, is a good thing to do.
These are all things that you can use for whatever you want to do and once you build this set of tools in your life, regardless if you are trying to quit drinking or trying to build a business or get an education, whatever it is that you want to do, you can use these tools.
Take Care and keep the alcohol out of your mouth. Good luck!
“Focus on the benefits not the difficulties of attaining your goal”
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
Hello. I found your help honest and what I needed to read tonight.!! I am not a writer, but saw a few typos. Only to mention them, as you may come across stronger if they were not in your message. I wish to edit for you if possible!?
Thank you again for warm and positive help!
thanks Judith 🙂