Your best dreams are always going to happen when you’re awake.
They’re the ones that are going to bring you fulfillment, so enjoy every waking moment you can.
Today, I want to talk about dreams.
Waking and sleeping dreams.
When I was drinking alcohol, I didn’t dream that much.
I did dream, but those dreams were very shallow and sporadic and I didn’t really remember much about what had happened.
It felt like I had a wet towel around my brain most of the time.
That’s all changed since I stopped drinking, I have the most vivid dreams now.
Not necessarily bad dreams, every so often there is a bad dream but most of the time it’s good stuff.
I like dreaming and I like waking up.
Except when I’m dreaming of becoming a serial killer.
Most of the time when I was drinking, I did a lot of daydreaming.
Thinking about the things and the person that I could be, thinking about the person I would have been if this hadn’t happened.
I did a lot of day dreaming which was, frankly when I’m looking back at it, ludicrous.
A lot of false expectations that were nowhere near conducive to what I was doing to myself.
These things were never going to happen because of the way that I was.
How can you dream and plan about something if at the same time your life is revolving around what you’re going to be doing the next day, and whether or not you’re going to have a hangover the next day, whether or not your day is going to be cut short because a mate called you to go to the pub?
None of that happens because reality cannot take its course.
Your dreams cannot take their course because of who you are and who this fundamental person is and what their habitual behaviour is.
A lot of people blame outside sources and say ‘I am not who I am today because of X outside myself or X over there or Y behind me, that situation, I wasn’t born into the right family, I wasn’t born with the right genes’.
When it all boils down to it, none of that makes any difference.
I’ve known people who are successful despite their upbringing and handicaps.
I’ve known people who were brought up with a silver spoon in their mouths and still failed.
Maybe not failed in their eyes but failed in their fathers’ eyes, to live up to their expectations.
Just because you have a certain thing, you have to have the inner motivation to do something because if you don’t, then…
We look at other people’s lives from our own perspectives as well which is a dangerous thing to do.
We look at someone else who is driving a big car, owns a big house and a yacht.
I remember walking down, we did a trip to Monte Carlo on the way here, a few years ago, myself, my son.
The amount of money that’s out there, you see it everywhere, the cars, the people, the yachts all lined up in the docks.
But the people didn’t look fucking happy.
I remember walking down the road, down towards…I don’t know if you know Monte Carlo track at all, just before the tunnel there’s a big bend at the top of the hill, I can’t remember the name.
Anyway we were walking down the pathway and these 3 young ladies come up in front of us, and they were linked up.
It was my son and myself on the pathway.
We moved in a little bit to give them some way.
They weren’t willing to give us a fucking inch.
They wanted to take the whole path, and the look they gave us was withering.
These people just didn’t look happy.
Happiness is an internal thing, not an external thing.
No matter how much you’ve got outside, if you keep your focus on the things that you can get from the outside world, then…
Unless you’re looking at the sky.
Looking at the clouds the way they are, it’s all free.
It’s wonderful, looking at a bird flying.
Every time I see a bird flying, I get the same feeling, like wow.
If you focus on material things like a car or something that can be bought with money, there’s always going to be something else.
They say what you focus on expands.
If you focus on material things the more you get, the more you want.
If you focus on inner peace, the more you get, the more you want.
The more you get, the more you want.
You want to pursue your dreams in reality.
Since I stopped drinking, the amount of things I’ve done and achieved in my life because I’ve now freed up all this time and mind space and head space.
Because I freed up all the money, not only the money I’ve saved because I stopped drinking, but also the money I gained from not drinking.
Because, you’re far more productive one you stop drinking.
You just make more opportunities in your life and those opportunities bring you wealth, whatever that wealth happens to be.
So, if you want to follow you dreams, then focus on your dreams.
Forget about the alcohol, put the alcohol into your past, and move onwards and upwards all the time.
That is what life is all about.
I feel much better than I did 20 years ago.
I never thought I’d say that about myself.
I thought it was always going to be a gradual decline.
But it’s not.
The older I get, the more I get out of life.
And because I stopped drinking, it’s the one thing that has done everything else for me, you know?
The one thing that has given me everything else is that stopping drinking.
I could’ve said this about stopping smoking, but smoking was just a gradual decline.
You’re always going to have moments in your life when you feel like life is giving you a bit of a dream experience and you’re getting this feeling like everything is clicking together.
But if you use something outside of yourself to gain what you want inside of yourself, alcohol is always going to hold you back.
It’s never going to pull you forwards into anything, it’s always going to deliver you a lot less than it takes from you.
When you stop drinking, you can pursue your dreams.
And like I said, go big on this.
There’s no point doing anything else, you’ve only got one life.
There’s no point in trying to pursue small goals.
If you go for big dreams, it’s not going to happen overnight.
You’re not going to get that instant gratification buzz out of it.
But instant gratification only gives you something in the moment, there’s always a payback.
There’s a consequence and you always have to pay back the consequence.
Think about instant gratification like a credit card of your life, and you can go out and spend that credit card as much as you want up to the limit that you’ve got.
But when it comes to paying back, you’re paying back twice or three times more.
If you don’t pay within the first month, then the financial consequence to you is going to be great.
Same thing with your life, if you go for the instant gratification buzz of the moment, you’re always going to have to pay more in the long run.
Follow your dreams.
Dream big and go for those dreams.
When you reach a big goal in your life, you’ll get such a buzz from it that you’ll want to experience it again and again and again.
As I said before, try and break these things down into smaller chunks so that you’re getting to little goals and victories in your life all the time.
And one victory builds on another victory.
That’s it for now.
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Until next time, stay safe, keep the alcohol out of your mouths, keep following your waking dreams, they’re the ones that are going to deliver you the best buzz in life.
NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS BECAUSE OF THE TIME IT WILL TAKE TO ACCOMPLISH THEM. THE TIME WILL PASS ANYWAY.
Until next time…
Onwards and Upwards!
This episode really hits home with me. I consciously (day) dream about my life without alcohol. I can wake up feeling good, I’m in much better physical shape, and I have brain power that seeks out my true interests and career goals. This dream is always there but alcohol assists me to put off making this my reality. How do I keep myself going in the right direction as the day turns to evening? Why do I continue to struggle?