The Trap of Thinking You Have Your Alcohol Drinking Under Control

The Trap of Thinking You Have Your Alcohol Drinking Under Control

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The Trap of Thinking You Have Your Alcohol Drinking Under Control
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Today, I just wanted to talk about the trap of thinking think you have got your alcohol drinking under control.

This is a big mistake that many people make.

It doesn’t happen after a week or two weeks, we’re too wary for that.

But once you’ve been off the booze for a month – for some people it’s a month for other people it’s a couple of months, six months down the line.

And you get this obvious, well it’s not very obvious, but it’s, most people do it – it comes up and you get a voice in the back of your head that says – “what if you could take one drink?”

You’ve managed six months man, you’ve done three months, whatever it is.

And you’re doing really well and you’ve proved that you can control your drinking.

You know, what would happen if you took one drink?

If you went down to the pub and you had two pints?

And you start going over it in your head.

Memory for taste is very strong; memory for smells are very strong; and for other things not so bad, but we make up for that by using our imagination.

We can put ourselves into the pub and we might remember specifically a really good time that we had down in the pub and we go “oh… that’s what the pub is – good times.”

We associate that one single good time, with having marvellous times all the time, with drinking being a marvellous thing to do.

We start to taste the beer or the wine and these thoughts start to feed on each other.

It is a trap.

There is no such thing as being off the beer, being off the wine, the alcohol, for six months or three months or whatever it is that you are off and being in control

That is not control.

You know? Control is being able to go out and have one glass of wine and never having another glass.

And doing that time after time after time, whenever you go out, whenever you have a dinner and stuff like that.

But it’s an illusion like Alan Carr talks about in his book – aptly named Controlling Your Alcohol Drinking.

It’s just an illusion of control which we never have control over it, because it’s a drug.

This is a drug that we’re using.

It’s not possible to control a drug because there are physiological things going on below the surface.

There are physiological things going on below the surface, that we’ve got no control over.

Tolerance is one of those things that alcohol has – the more you drink the more you need to drink.

You can’t drink the same amount every time and still drink the same amount and still get the same feeling you know?

The more you drink that same amount the less effect that amount has over you.

So, it’s just a big trap.

I mean I’m off the beer now, three years eight months, heading into my ninth month; no three years and nine months heading into my tenth month now, as I am recording this.

I seriously cannot envision myself ever drinking again, because of the life that I am living now, because I’ve stopped drinking.

Number One.

I don’t want to go through the hangovers anymore.

I don’t want to go through the mistrust that everyone had for me.

All the different bad things that I’ve ever talked about, I know, will come streaming back into my life within a very short space of time, if I start drinking again.

I don’t know what it would take to ever get me to drink, say, the future is a very unknown quantity.

You don’t know what’s going to happen right.

It would take something very, very bad and I don’t even want to think about what it would take.

I know at the back of my mind probably what it would take but even then I don’t think it would drive me to drink.

No, once you get into this and for any length of time you’ll find yourself dealing with things in better ways

Whenever you get pressure in your life, when you can’t sleep, when you need to relax.

When you haven’t got the alternative of, you haven’t got that escape route now any more of putting alcohol into your body,you do something differently, you know?

If you’re not looking at another drug to do this, you’re going to do it naturally and you will learn by those things.

If you have a pressure in your life, if something happens in your life and you can’t turn to alcohol anymore, then you’ve got to deal with that pressure and try and alleviate the pressure through something natural, by solving the problem or whatever it is.

But you deal with these things without the instant gratification right.

Once you do that, you learn how to do that for yourself, you know?

You don’t need to go back to drinking.

You know you don’t need that hidey-hole that drink offers you.

That you could just hide in and pull down the shutters.

And you start to realise that all the times that you were doing that for yourself, never worked anyway.

They only caused you more problems, because as you stopped, you don’t this anymore to yourself, your life will start to improve in so many different ways.

And you realise that going back on alcohol is never going to be the answer.

So even thinking about it momentarily – there’s nothing wrong with that right?

But if you entertain the idea, if you start to allow yourself to go down that road, allow yourself, convincing yourself to go down that road – then yeah – it’s a big trap.

So don’t do it.

I think when you do get over that year and you start thinking along these lines, it’s very difficult to go back.

I think, you know, like I said earlier, I can’t imagine what it would take for me to go back on the booze now.

The one thing that would in my mind make me, that would break my heart enough right, the one thing that would happen, that could possibly happen that I would think about, that would send me down that route…

I just think that wouldn’t either because it would be, yeah, I don’t want to go down there.

So look, I’m just saying because you’ve not drank for six months or a year or three months or a month or whatever it is.

And you think that you’ve got the alcohol under control.

There’s no such thing as keeping alcohol under control

Because – A: because of the habit that you’ve learned, that always going to be lurking around in the background.

Any habit that you break down, whether it’s a sugar habit or whether it’s a habit of watching TV, or any of those things, alcohol or any other drug, it’s always going to be there in the background, you know lurking away.

I’m not saying that to say “well, it’s always going to be pressing buttons and stuff” it’s not like.

If you go back to what you used to do, to the old behaviour, even if you try and do it and moderate that old behaviour.

The old patterns will resurface very quickly.

So it’s impossible to control this stuff you know?

The only way to control this stuff is by not entertaining it, by not drinking it so.

That’s it for today.
Until next time…
Take care
Keep the alcohol out of your mouth
Stay safe.
Good Luck.
Onwards and Upwards!

“Knowing where the trap is – that’s the first step of evading it”


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4 Comments

  • Stephen

    Reply Reply November 20, 2016

    Hi Kevin,

    I’m afraid your latest vid for today 20/11/16- didn’t open for some reason.
    It said that ‘This video is private’, and that was that!

  • Mick

    Reply Reply January 14, 2017

    An excellent video, its a tricky area. Alcohol is everywhere and keeping a healthy fear of it is a very good thing. Just like bleach or battery acid. Maybe even more so, people/society are not trying to convince you to drink that.

    I know I can’t ever drink again, unless I decided to go back to being a proper piss head. once you have been a heavy drinker, you are hard wired, literally your brain has been rewired, there is no going back.

    I don’t use willpower as such at any level not to drink, I simply don’t want to be pissed anymore and I am so much better for it. I do more and have more fun.

    Could something get me to want to drink? Is it possible I have got this wrong? and alcohol will give me or you some pleasure? Alcohol will without doubt activate a pleasure center in the brain.

    But within a few drinks my body will counter this and turn the pleasure center down, by releasing a chemical in my blood. So I would need more drinks, my body will counter this so I will need more drinks, my inhibitions will now be lowered so I will drink more. My brain will now completely start misfiring, my speech slewed my walking unstable, My body will have turned the pleasure center down so low that I am now feeling low and maybe argumentative. Later I will wake up sweaty and paranoid full of regret. No I haven’t got this wrong! Alcohol is a big confidence trick, unfortunately most people I know fall for it again and again. Alcohol does fuck all for you, any buzz is a few minutes then your on the downward spiral. (its a nasty loan shark with high interest rates)

    The same thing, only worse happens if you drink because you feeling low or need to escape your thoughts. Alcohol does not do what it says on the tin or the advert. If you drink it in small quantities scientists have known since the early 90’s it increases your chance of cancer by 15%
    So even if you could drink a glass of wine with your dinner and not even bother to get pissed its a bad thing. Alcohol free and proud.

  • Lucinda

    Reply Reply August 7, 2017

    Hi Kevin,
    Thank you for all your videos. Thanks to watching many of your videos, I’ve been off the wine for almost 3 months and plan to never go back! My husband has never been a drinker (mostly because his father was an alcoholic) but will occasionally have a beer or glass of wine. Maybe once every 3 months or so. It makes me wonder if there are people that can drink and never make it a habit. I know I’m not one of those people and I don’t entertain the idea of somehow becoming a “social drinker”. Is it possible there is, in fact, a predisposition or physical makeup that is different between the occasional drinker and those of us who will keep increasing our intake to get the same buzz? Maybe it doesn’t matter…
    Thanks for all you do!

    • Kevin O'Hara

      Reply Reply August 9, 2017

      Hi Lucinda, Great question. Check out podcast 13 when it comes out for an answer 🙂

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