Is Alcohol Affecting Your Relationships?

Is Alcohol Affecting Your Relationships? (Transcript)

I’m Kevin O’Hara for Alcohol Mastery.
And today I want to ask you the question: “How is alcohol affecting your relationships?”
I did a video earlier on the week and somebody asked me the question: “How was alcohol affecting my relationships?” So it’s just an add-on to that.
You have to look at this like it’s, if everything affects everything else so if you’re still drinking it’s sometimes difficult to see how the alcohol is affecting your relationships.

What Made Me Quit

I was very, very surprised when I quit to understand how deeply some of my relationships were actually affected. It’s one of the most important aspects of your life. And for me the thing that pushed me over the edge was my relationship with my son and it wasn’t until he wasn’t there anymore you know he was, I’m living in a foreign country and I wasn’t seeing him for most of the year and then when I was seeing him I was drunk. And that, to me, pushed me straight over the edge.

An Important Sit Down With Yourself!

But it wasn’t just that, it was how I was talking to other people when I was drunk and when I was talking to other people whenever drink was involved or when somebody would say something to me about my levels of drinking I was doing and I’d snap at them and say: “it’s none of your fucking business” that kind of thing. I think it’s just so important and it will be so helpful for you. If you are still drinking to actually sit down and spend time thinking about this one.

Taking Responsibility

It’s a fairly simple process to look at how alcohol is affecting the rest of your life, is it affecting your job – you can always get another job, or is it affecting your bank account, you can always earn more money. But relationships with people, these are the things that are going to haunt you for the rest of your life if you don’t do something about. It’s taking responsibility for that aspect alone, and really understanding that it’s your fault. If you’re drinking is interfering with your relationships in any way, shape, or form, it’s entirely your fault.
So it’s something to sit down and get real with yourself about and really examine. It’s worth the effort to take as much time as you need, in order to understand this.

So anyway till next time, My name’s Kevin O’Hara for Alcohol Mastery.
Onwards and Upwards.

Is Alcohol Affecting Your Relationships?

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3 Comments

  • JoDev59

    Reply Reply February 26, 2014

    Hi Kevin, ALCOHOL FREE Day 16 today & feeling Fine!! I have always had trouble sleeping when I stop drinking which has even sent me back into drinking just to get some much needed sleep every night. This time however, I am having no trouble at all. I bought some Natures Bounty Melatonin 5mg liquid softgels & also some Thompson’s Kava 2400 tablets from ebay. I take 1 of each in the evening around 9pm & am able to sleep well.

    About relationships & how Alcohol affects them. I feel the same way about my son as you do about yours Kevin & regret the example I have been in the past. I just know that it has to be better if I am not drinking. I can then be a good example for my 32yo son. If I am still drinking, then he has an excuse for his drinking—that his parent is a “Drunk”. But if I have stopped then the responsibility is fully in his court & I no longer feel guilty & responsible if I he is abusing Alcohol. I am just hoping that my good example will encourage others to do the same.Their own physical & mental health can only improve for the better.

    I am going to visit my son this weekend & will not be drinking so it will be interesting to see how it all goes. All the best & keep up the good work-highest regards Joanne:)

    • Kevin O'Hara

      Reply Reply February 28, 2014

      Hey Jo
      It’s one of the big issues with quitting, people can’t sleep and they go back onto the booze. The thing is it’s not proper sleep they’re getting. Sounds like you found a non toxic way of helping you drop off…
      Don’t be too hard on yourself about your son. We live in a society where drinking is the norm, drinking a lot is the norm. Best of luck
      Kev

  • ronnie

    Reply Reply March 2, 2014

    Hi Kev i see what you mean about drinking mates ,i dreaded telling my mate , he said well youll be boring without a drink and have a boring life ? why not just have the odd couple of pints on a friday, i normally only meet up with a couple of my m8s once every couple of months .i made up some excuse about blood tests and that , hes a good m8 and we go back a long way so was a bit hard telling him id quit drinking ,why cant people just accept you dont want to poison yourself any longer we both grew up with all the brainwashing around drinking ,we both gave up the fags at the same time but the drinking seems to hang on , o go on just have one type of thing . it was like id told him i had an incurable disease or something .when all i said was im not drinking anymore such is the brainwashing we all went through ,drinking is the only thing you have to say sorry for not doing it ,its all very wierd really anyway i got it out of the way and told him i had to stop the great illusion that drinking is, come to think of it i didnt need to make an excuse because my liver kept telling me to stop ,odd pains here and there
    onwards and uppards anyway

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