No One Saves Us But Ourselves Buddha

No One Saves Us But Ourselves Buddha

You are the only one who can change anything about yourself… Your thinking, your rituals, your behaviour, your actions… You are the only one who can stop putting the alcohol into your mouth… You are the only one who can create a better life for yourself.
There are many many ways that you can hold yourself back. Persisting with alcoholic thinking. Continuing to associate yourself with your alcoholic lifestyle… Calling yourself sober, in recovery… Putting roadblocks in front of yourself like PAWS… These are all things that you do to yourself… The ideas might be somebody else’s, but you’re the one who, through your belief, allows them to act on your brain, on your thoughts, and on your life… There is nobody that can save you put yourself…

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Did Quitting Drinking Alcohol Cost You Your Social Life? Do I Miss it?

Did Quitting Drinking Alcohol Cost You Your Social Life? Do I Miss it?

Ask yourself what is your social life? How would you define your own social life?
This video is based around an email question: Did quitting drinking alcohol cost you your social life? Do you still miss it, deep in your heart?
I will talk about about my social life now and then… The costs of drinking alcohol versus not drinking alcohol in relation to my social life.

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What to Say to People Who Challenge your Quitting Drinking

What to Say to People Who Challenge your Quitting Drinking

One of the simplest, and yet seemingly most complicated, problems that people face when they quit drinking is what to say to people who challenge the fact that they are not drinking. How do you approach this?
For a start, it depends on who is doing the asking.
For me, biggest control over this whole process is how you direct your own attention and how you direct other people’s attention.
You have the best chance of success in quitting drinking alcohol if you focus your attention away from alcohol, towards thing or set of things that you want to achieve in your life after booze.
You have the best chance of success of avoiding or deflecting other people’s attention away from the fact that you were quitting drinking alcohol if you focus their attention away from the alcohol.
Take a look at the video… I hope you enjoy!

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6 Facts About Quitting Drinking Everyone Thinks are True

6 Facts About Quitting Drinking Everyone Thinks are True

Today’s video is based on six “facts” about alcohol and addiction that most people believe. This is not only incredibly harmful to anyone who wants to quit drinking, but as we know, there are monumental untruths being told about alcohol itself and its place within our society…

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Understand Your Drinking Problem And You’re Halfway to Quitting

Understand Your Drinking Problem And You’re Halfway to Quitting

300 days! The end of the challenge is in sight.
Today’s video is about finding your particular drinking problem. It’s not about the alcohol, that’s not what this whole thing boils down to. It’s about something else. Something underneath that keeps us going back to this type of shallow instant solution. What’s your problem?

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Are There Any Places That Tempt Me to Drink? What to Do About It

Are There Any Places That Tempt Me to Drink? What to Do About It

Today’s video is based around a question from YouTube: are there any places that tempt me to drink?
The thing is, no matter what habits you are trying to quit, most of the behaviour is controlled by subconscious mechanisms.
So, it’s your job in the early days to bring those parts of your behaviour to the surface where you can deal with them.
This is not as difficult as it sounds. Your mind is going to do most of the work for you. This comes in the form of cravings and temptations.
There will be so many reminders of alcohol around you because of the nature of your habit. But that’s all they are, reminders. Temptations and cravings are the labels that we give to these reminders that prompt us to do the behaviour.
Your conscious mind is fighting against it. Your subconscious mind is trying to get you to do it. It’s as simple as that.
The solution, the perfect solution, is that your habit is built on repetition… It’s also broken down through repetition. The more refuse to indulge in the habit, the less power it has of you, the less temptation craving you will feel.

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5 Ways Quitting Drinking Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life

5 Ways Quitting Drinking Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life

Whether you already have somebody meaningful in your life or your looking for that person, quitting drinking alcohol is something which can help your love life. 🙂

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Quitting Drinking Can Seem Impossible Until You Don’t Drink Any More

Quitting Drinking Can Seem Impossible Until You Don’t Drink Any More

We all know that the actual process of quitting drinking alcohol is very, very simple… YOU don’t put the alcohol into YOUR body. If you follow this one simple rule, there’s nothing more to do.

Having said that, what holds many people back from either starting this journey or progressively moving away from alcohol and advancing with their lives, is that so many parts of their lives must alter in order to achieve that end goal.

People fear the extent of this change. And, when you look at it from a birds eye view, it’s a really big task. However, fortunately for us, we don’t live our lives like that. We live our lives moment by moment.
Once you get onto the track, the right track, the track which is going to take you towards your ideal destination, there becomes a certain beautiful inevitability about the changes that you will make, and the changes that will begin to happen automatically…

Think about the snowball rolling down a hill. It starts out at the top as something very small, weak, slow, hesitant, uncertain. In no time it starts to move quicker, easier, it’s gathering magnitude, building momentum, accelerating. By the time it reaches the bottom of the hill, it bears no resemblance to that which started at the top.

The same with your new journey… You start out with uncertainty, feeling not up to the job, hesitant and uncertain about the next step, lacking knowledge or experience, feeling weak. But as the days roll on, your experience grows. You put more distance between yourself and the alcohol. You take more steps towards the person you want to be. You feel stronger. You feel like you are growing in confidence. By the time you get to 6 months, a year, two years, your life will bear no resemblance to what it looked like at the beginning of your journey. You will have changed so much, beyond what you thought possible, and in ways you couldn’t possibly have thought about.

That is what you have to tap into. And that is what can only be found within the confines of your own mentality. Stop looking anywhere else. You won’t find it. Start looking inside. Be your own biggest inspiration.

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The Challenge of Quitting Drinking Alcohol

The Challenge of Quitting Drinking Alcohol

Zig Ziglar, an inspiring motivational speaker, said that “We only expand by demand”, meaning if there is no pressure to change you will not change, you will not grow, you will not expand.
That pressure can come in many different guises. It can be a health scare causing you to second-guess some of the things that you’re doing in your life. The pressure could come from somebody close to you who realises, often a long time before you do, that you need to change. It can come from something very simple. An innocuous event that means very little in the grand scheme of things, but belts you so hard in the gut that you have no choice but to take notice.
My health was suffering before I stopped drinking, but I didn’t realise because alcohol caused health complaints happen over a long period of time… It’s hard to take notice.
Unless you get a “no ifs and no buts” ultimatum laid on the line by your doctor, telling you of an immediate necessity to change, health-related problems can take a long time to show their faces.
For me, it was that single solitary punch in the gut moment that caused everything to change. It was that moment, when I saw my son walking up and down the beach, looking for his lost iPhone, that I saw the need to expand… The demand to expand…
That’s just one of the challenges of changing yourself enough that you quit drinking and never go back to that lifestyle.
There are many challenges, but if you are not challenged, you’re not changing. I hope you enjoy the video.

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The 8 Habits of Highly Successful Ex-Drinkers

The 8 Habits of Highly Successful Ex-Drinkers

What does it take to quit drinking alcohol? Is a rundown of some of the habits that can help you not only to quit drinking, but will help you in the long run to eliminate any habit and build the new life that you want.

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